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Personal Becomes Political thru Birth Stories

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Hermine Hayes Klein introducing panel at Human Rights in Childbirth Conference, Belgium 2013.

While in Belgium for Midwifery Today I visited a IMBCO Demo site and attended the Human Rights in Childbirth Conference (HRiC). All the events and conferences reignited my passion and dedication to ensure every MotherBaby has the right to respect, dignity and informed decision making in childbirth as well as every midwife and doula has the right to practice autonomously. The language of birth is changing as we bring a much needed human rights frame-work to quality maternity care, as well as release our current fear and pain language to replace it of one of possibilities, health and pleasure.

Attending HRiC also made me feel a huge sadness- the weight of all the stories and the pain combined with the hope that they were all coming together.  Speaking-out and seeking change in a legal and medical system, one can’t help but wonder if the current system looked in the mirror and saw the pain it is causing, would it really continue in this model?  I hope No, I always believe we have good people, but a broken system- a dysfunctional system.  I have faith that change is coming if we can peel away the veil of silence and build a system of respectful care (see whiteribbonalliance.org/respectfulcare for more on respectful care).

Hermine Hayes Klein of HRiC framed the day, “It is through stories that the personal becomes political.”  Here is a snapshot of some of the stories that came together at the conference:

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My heart ached as doula, Ana Raposeira from Portugal, shared her story. Imagine how it feels to be with a family for a birth where the baby dies 8 hours later, and then to be charged with murder of that baby? Ana’s love and caring provided them with precious skin-to-skin time for a baby with multiple anomalies, that were undetected by ultrasounds and the medical professionals, and were most likely incompatible with life.  Ana’s intuition had her stay longer and then to call the midwife to return, which lead to them seeking more care.  She did all she could and remained within her role as a doula- within her scope of practice and code of ethics.  I have faith she will be proven innocent.  Soon we will be sharing her video statement with a link to donate to her legal defense fund. At that time, I hope you will join me in supporting her with our love, nurturing, and if you can to help, with her legal defense fund, as every dollar makes a difference! Thank you in advance!

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In Italy Daniela is taking her physician to court for doing an episiotomy after repeated refusal.  She suffered PTSD, and the Facebook group facebook.com/humanrightsinchildbirth inspired her to take a stand and appeal her case to determine what is “admittable” consent as consent is not often sought in Italy for episiotomy, induction, and amniotomy.

Hermine Hayes-Klein writes in her blog for O Birth Courage & Insanity, from Suffrage to Childbirth: “I think of Daniela in Italy, who sought far and wide during pregnancy for a provider who wouldn’t cut an episiotomy.  She was promised that the hospital where she would deliver would respect her insistence that an episiotomy not be cut. She told every single provider that she spoke with, during pregnancy and then during her labor at the hospital, that under no circumstances did she want an episiotomy.  She told this more than once to the doctor who ended up between her legs while her baby came out.  When the baby was crowning, that doctor reached for scissors and started cutting an episiotomy.  Daniela screamed “No!” from the depths of her soul.  The doctor looked up, hesitated, and then cut a long, deep episiotomy.

“When medical staff visited her bed after the birth, Daniela was deeply upset.  She felt profoundly violated and traumatized.  She spoke up, loudly, about what had happened and stated that her legal and human rights had been violated.  The obstetricians called the psychiatrists, who came to suggest that, in her state, she might pose a danger to her newborn child.  After she left the hospital, Daniela was visited twice at her home by psychiatrists, without an invitation.  On top of the trauma of the episiotomy was added this violation of her safe space, her home, and the need to then convince these psychiatrists that they need not involve child protective services and take away her new baby.”

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Dutch Midwife Krysia Lynch and the homebirth of twins case…. One thing I learned is we tend to make things difficult but it is not that hard, the question should not be “Should a woman under any circumstance have the right to give birth at home?” The question should be “Who will assist her?”  A woman can exercise her right alone.  We should never use coercion or force women to what others see as the civilized choice.  There will always be homebirth, who has the expertise, what area of expertise is essential?  Midwives are the experts here, and the expertise of the birthing women we need to trust.  We can learn.  We need to be held accountable, transparent, open and honest.

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Teehan v Health Service Executive and Minister for Health, Ireland May 2013.  Aja was an expectant mother who exercised her choice to have an assisted birth at home. Aja took steps to have her homebirth by providing the HSE with the following information; a detailed letter with research on VBAC safety; details of her personal circumstances including good health, yoga, and gymnastics; and the OB report indicating she was lowest risk and should be granted home birth. Aja’s request was refused and she took action. Aja writes in her blog, Aja Teehan vs HSE and Minister for Health: “I have brought this case because of the HSE’s refusal to allow me to have a home birth with the assistance of a midwife. HSE policy along with changes in the law mean that it is no longer possible for any expectant mother to have a home birth unless they fit within a rigid criteria; I cannot access one publicly, or privately. When the HSE refused my application for home birth, they did not assess me as an individual mother and imposed a blanket policy. I have right to autonomy and family rights, which are guaranteed by the European Convention of Human Rights and our Constitution. I am seeking to vindicate my rights.”

And from, “To All Those Who Do Not Understand, I Will Defend You.”  Aja writes, “Many aspects of this complex case have been misunderstood; some people even think I want to force everyone to have a home-birth.  This is not about my homebirth, this is about every birth:  I am defending you in your birth; I am defending your mothers, your daughters, your sisters and cousins – and more than that, I am defending us all, as people.” Read more.

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In Slovakia, physical abuse, cutting women without consent, in cesarean and episiotomies is standard.  “Some hospitals women have no chance to leave the hospital without a cut.”  And the problem is this is all considered normal. Mothers know something isn’t right, they feel something is not right but they must just go on and focus on their baby.  Kristina had her first baby by c/sec. She wanted  a VBAC  and arrived to the hospital in active labor  at 8 cm, labor slowed  and she agreed to allow them to rupture  her membranes and give her synthetic oxytocin/pitocin, at 2:45 she felt the urge to push, with the mother tied down, Kristina said, “during the second stage two nurses jumped on chairs and pushed on my belly, that left bruises, was painful and I could not breathe, it felt like I would suffocate.”  (Kristeller Maneuver or Kristeller Pressure is strong pressure applied to the Uterus- see video).  Is it ok to receive an episiotomy that I did not consent to?

It is clear more and more women are suffering abuse, and post traumatic stress disorder and effect after childbirth and more and more women and men are speaking out and not only speaking but bringing cases to the courts to change the system and defend their human right to respect, dignity and decision making for themselves and their baby.  Some are also using Article 3 of European Convention on Human Rights (torture).  They are feeling that forced procedures in childbirth need stronger language than human rights.

Hermine concludes: “Why are we here to share them?  What is the value of sharing these stories? Consciousness raising has always been women talking, sharing their stories with each other.  There have been times and places where women’s talking has been considered a dangerous thing.  Any maybe it is, to some.  Because it is through sharing our stories that we understand how the very personal, private thing that happened to us fits into a bigger picture, one that invokes money, power and injustice.  It is through stories that the personal becomes political.  And so, if we want to see clarity around the basic autonomy rights of birthing women, their maternal rights to make decision on their babies’ behalf, and their reproductive right to pursue a physiological home birth, with a midwife, we can do nothing better than come together an talk about these legal proceedings, the people involved, and the legal arguments being made.”

To lift my spirits and to meet my long time hero Kerstin Uvnas-Moberg I attended the round table The Right to your own oxytocin!  Yes oxytocin and this lively informative new look at oxytocin both our own and synthetic lifting my spirit as did talking with Kerstin Uvnas-Moberg after about Orgasmic Birth! I will be sharing this discussion with you in an upcoming blog- easy sign up here to stay posted on future news and blogs.

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MT Belgium Brings Orgasmic Birth Power!

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My heart! So wide open with women, midwives, doulas, physicians, educators and all who share a passion for respectful, quality care with heart.

I feel a glow with the love of an extended family that accepts me for who I am, who listens, shares, nurtures, challenges and debates with compassion and love. With my dear friends and many new friends, I have danced, sung, enjoyed skits, fire, water, air and earth, laughed and cried.  I am have felt creative energy flowing in young and old as together we vision a world of gentle, peaceful, sacred birth and how the ecology of birth, effects the ecology of our planet.

These are all feelings I am full of as I fly across the Atlantic back home after an incredible week at the Midwifery Today Conference in Blankenberge, Belgium.  Huge visions and grand dreams fill me whenever we gather at Midwifery Today conferences.  We are always reminded of Margaret Mead’s great quote:

“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has”.

Jan Tritten, our mother of Midwifery Today brings together many wise and inspiring speakers and sessions, I honor them all and want to share just a few with you….

Verena Schmid, a midwife who practices in Italy, and whom I co-taught with at our doula workshop this year in Bassano de Grappa, speaks so eloquently about the eco-system of birth, the ecology of birth.  Her words, always take me deeper in our need to reframe our perspectives of childbirth globally.  Being busy teaching and facilitating sessions myself I could not attend all her sessions but I trust I arrived at the right moment as in her session on the physiology of second stage, I entered the room as she was saying:

DSCN4101“Orgasmic power is the capacity of abandoning oneself to the flux of biologic energies, and of being able to unload the accumulated tension of labor pain through involuntary rhythmical contractions of body and vagina, giving the baby to the world and welcoming with satisfaction and tenderness”

There are no coincidences she continues: Childbirth is sexual. Childbirth is an opening process. Childbirth and integrity. All spoken over evocative images of beauty, history, and symbolism.

Verena recommends this 80s video to show spontaneous birth when women are upright and ease their baby’s into the world.

Verena explained all the harmful (yes harmful!) aspects for the pelvic floor in 2nd stage:

Recumbent or reclining positions (also in water), Imposed position by caregiver, not instinctively assumed by women, Pushing efforts in apnea (holding breathe), fundal pressure, Episiotomy, Vacuum/forceps, Disturbed environment, Lack of empathy and affective support, and Fear.

What a contrast to what is possible, and yet with all the scientific knowledge, why are we not improving care to make birth safer and easier for women?  We have the knowledge.

Betty Anne-Davis a midwife from Canada said it well at the Human Rights in Childbirth Conference that followed, “Doctors don’t know Squat!”  (The position of course as she and I both agree we value and honor doctor’s and their role, we just need more midwives to have a healthy maternity care system in balance)

We must stand, kneel and squat to deliver and not take it lying down!

I also had the chance to speak with Michelle, Marta‘s daughter, who was so inspired by helping to catch her sister that she too attended sessions and shared her growing passion for childbirth as a natural part of a woman’s life and sexuality.

Katerina, a midwife from Russia also shared her Orgasmic Birth story with me as her children played nearby, so many women from around the world, 42 countries in total representing our diversity and desire to reclaim childbirth and strengthen midwifery care around the world.

Gail Tully midwife of SpinningBabies.com gave many sessions, and I was sad many were at the same time as mine, but thrilled when over dinner Gail offered a demo to Ricardo Jones, a physician from Brazil, and his wife and midwife, Zeza, as well as midwife Elizabeth Davis, my friend and co-author for Orgasmic Birth: Your Guide to a Safe, Satisfying and Pleasurable Birth Experience.  Gail shared her techniques to create balance to create the space to turn a posterior baby, a baby’s whose back is in line with mother’s back.  Those who have taken a workshop with me know how much I value and appreciate Gail and her teachings and book on Belly Mapping.  I am so grateful for the learning and sharing at every waking moment even at dinner the sharing and learning continued.

If you attended the conference or past Midwifery Today conference I would love to have you share some key lessons learned.  I hope to see you in April at Midwifery Today in Harrisburg, PA as we continue to dance, laugh, learn, nurture and inspire each other.
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Orgasmic Birth Experience Design Competition

EXTENDED!!

What is safe, sacred and succulent with wild, lasting release?

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Our new slogan: Unlock Your Pleasure to the Best-Kept Secret: Orgasmic Birth, needs a new design.

Orgasmic Birth is currently holding a design competition for the new logo that will appear on the Orgasmic Birth DVD, CD, and accompanying online resources. We love rich, earthy colors and bold images and designs that express the joy and freedom of ecstatic, orgasmic birth! And we love real images of real women birthing. You must have copyright permissions for any and all images used. Designs should be high-resolution and available in different dimensions for banners and DVD/CD images.

Please submit your designs thru the “Share Your Story” page and indicate they are for “Obirth Design Competition”. You may submit as many different ideas as you want! Bring your style and savvy together with the Orgasmic Birth message.  Winner will receive a Gift Package including a Bali Birth Batik (valued at $39.95), DVD Orgasmic Birth Movie (valued at $29.99), CD Orgasmic Birth Soundtrack (valued at $14.99), Orgasmic Birth Book Guide (valued at $19.99), One-hour consultation with Doula/Birthworker/Director of Orgasmic Birth Movie, Debra Pascali-Bonaro (valued at $200.) AND publication on the Internationally acclaimed and known Orgasmic Birth Movie & Resources (Priceless!). Have fun and feel free to discuss here in the comments or on our obirth fbpage.

Please submit your designs thru the “Share Your Story” page and indicate they are for “Obirth Design Competition”. Submissions accepted thru end of year.

Need a starting point? Here are some past O Birth logos and designs….

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Quotes from O Birth Movie and Guide always provide inspiration.

 

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A painting created by the Doulas in Austria.

 

 

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O Birth Image put together by Women’s Rights News
Our original logo.
Our original logo.

 

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Orgasmic Birth in the sand
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Attitude of Gratitude, Heart-full of Pleasure

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Each morning I wake and say five things I am grateful for.  I have learned that an attitude of gratitude, not only begins each day with peace, but science is beginning to show us how we affect each cell and molecule in our body by the attitudes we hold.

Dr. Robert Emmons a professor of psychology at University of California Davis a foremost authority on the topic of Gratitude says: “Gratitude improves emotional and physical health, and it can strengthen relationships and communities.”  He published Thanks: How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make You Happier, an interdisciplinary book that provides a research-based synthesis of the topic as well as practical suggestions.

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.” 
- Melody Beattie

This morning I woke early this morning before the sun rose to see a brilliant full moon lighting the early morning sky.  The glimmering light guided me as I gave thanks for many blessings and began my day with an attitude of gratitude.  In the last few years I have added my heart-full of pleasure.  This morning gave me many reasons to be grateful and to celebrate the pleasures of life.  In a few short minutes I can feel my body tingle and my heart fill with love as this simple practice transforms all that follows.

I packed the last items to bring with me as I begin my travels to join the circle of Austrian doulas and then onto Midwifery Today in Belgium.  In both places, I am looking forward to reconnecting with old friends who share a passion for optimal MotherBaby care as well as being excited to meet the many new birth workers who will join us as we share our vision for every woman’s right to give birth with dignity, respect, privacy, safety, support, pleasure and love and as we discuss Human Rights in Childbirth.

This week in preparation to open registration for Orgasmic Italy: a woman’s retreat to celebrate and deepen our appreciation of the pleasures of life, I have been enjoying photographs and savoring the many memories we shared in last year’s Pleasures of Italy retreat on the Amalfi Coast.  In the dim morning light I placed stamps on the notes we had written to each other to send three months later, which is today.  I can see us all on the beautiful terrace at Hotel Le Rocce with a spectacular view of the Amalfi coast below.  The Mediterranean Sea glistening as the morning sun reflects off it.  The smells of Italian coffee and fresh baked goodies.  The Italian pottery tables, with lemons and blues, against the backdrop of the mountain peaks of Agerola surrounding us in beauty and filling all our senses with bliss.  The connection we created with each other, and our own nurturing of ourselves has expanded my heart and fills me with love.  I can still see our drawings that captured our feelings as we wrote notes to send to ourselves and each other that I have kept on my desk these three months.  I am grateful yet again, reminded of the many pleasures we shared as well as our deep connection to nurture ourselves and each other as well as the commitment we made to continue enjoying the pleasures of life and celebrating each day.

The sun is gently rising now and I am off to begin another journey.  Join me in beginning your day with an attitude of gratitude and a heart-full of pleasure.  I hope to hear from you.  Please share your list of pleasures or maybe I will meet you at a workshop or retreat to celebrate the pleasures of life and birth in person.

Please share what are some things you are grateful for or what fills your heart with pleasure?

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Ina May Inducted into Hall of Fame by Robbie Davis-Floyd

Ina May Gaskin and Robbie Davis-Floyd at the Gala Celebration of the National Women’s Hall of Fame Inductees, Oct. 12, 2013. Ina May was inducted, along with 8 other remarkable women, including Betty Ford and Nancy Pelosi. Photo by Juliana van Olphen Fehr.
Ina May Gaskin and Robbie Davis-Floyd at the Gala Celebration of the National Women’s Hall of Fame Inductees, Oct. 12, 2013. Ina May was inducted, along with 8 other remarkable women, including Betty Ford and Nancy Pelosi. Photo by Juliana van Olphen Fehr.

I had the honor and the pleasure to bear witness to Ina May’s induction into the National Women’s Hall of Fame in Seneca Falls, a charming small town in Upstate New York that has long been a hotbed for the women’s liberation movement—the first Convention for Women’s Rights was held there in 1848, followed by many subsequent events during our sister-ancestors’ long battle for equal rights. The National Women’s Hall of Fame is physically located there, right across the street from the Elizabeth Cady Stanton Park.

It was a grand event with hundreds of attendees. The festivities began with a Tea Party (a deliberate and not-so-subtle comment on our present political logjam!) that offered plenty of opportunities for meeting, greeting, and networking. The New York midwives turned out in force for Ina May—they planned their annual NYSALM (New York State Association of Licensed Midwives) meeting to take place in Seneca Falls so that they could all be there to support Ina May. MANA’s representative to the event, Vicki Hedley, current MANA Board member and Treasurer, kindly drove me through the gorgeous countryside on a bright sunny day that enabled us to fully appreciate the lovely vistas of mountains, valleys, and fall foliage that filled our senses with delight.  I came from Texas, Juliana van Olphen Fehr (Director of the Nurse-Midwifery Program at Shenandoah University) came from Virginia, as did many others to be there for Ina May, and wow did she get a lot of cheering when she stepped forward to have that huge medal hung around her neck!

It is official! Ina May is a Great Woman!
It is official! Ina May is a Great Woman!

She gave a brilliant talk. She began by noting that even though she could not legally practice in New York State as a CPM, she had actually and legally attended a birth in New York, on a Native American reservation there that is not officially part of NY. “Balance” was her theme—the balance the Six Nations achieved by having men as chiefs, with a committee of women as the voters who decided what the male leaders could and could not do, such as when they could and could not go to war. She moved on to honor Mary Breckinridge, a former inductee, describing the Frontier Nursing Service that Breckenridge created, the difficult conditions under which they practiced, fording swollen streams to attend home births, and the excellent outcomes they achieved because of their courage, skills, and commitment. They achieved a remarkable sort of balance between the needs of the population and the services the FNS midwives could provide. I managed to film most of her talk on my iPhone—Debra Pascali Bonaro will be posting it on YouTube, so watch for it!

The formal induction ceremony opened with a video of Hillary Clinton welcoming us all to Seneca Falls, honoring the early feminists, and celebrating today’s induction.  The other eight inductees included Betty Ford (1918-2011), Julie Krone (1963- ), Kate Millett (1934-  ), Mother Mary Joseph Rogers (1882-1955), Bernice Resnick Sandler (1928- ), Anna Jacobson Schwartz (1915-2012), Emma Hart Willard (1787-1870), and Nancy Pelosi (1940-  ). Betty Ford’s daughter spoke movingly of her bravery in choosing to share her diagnosis of breast cancer and her struggles with alcoholism with the world, in order to move these heretofore almost unspeakable issues into public awareness and consciousness. Julie Krone—you may not know her name, but she was one of the first female jockeys in the U.S and eventually became the leading female Thoroughbred horse racing jockey of all time. Her speech was inspirational. She described her early marginalization as a woman, being given the worst horses to ride and then learning them so well that she began to ride them to victory, over and over, against all odds, until her skills were finally fully acknowledged, at which point she began to ride back-to-back races, sometimes winning five or six races a day, and going on to become the first woman to win a Triple Crown and many other awards. Nancy Pelosi told the story of being asked to run for the House of Representatives, her concern about what that might mean for her last remaining child at home, a daughter. She told her daughter about the opportunity, said that she was willing to let that go in order to stay home and support her through her senior year of high school. Her daughter’s response: “Mom, GET A LIFE!”

The Gala Celebration after the Induction Ceremonies was a marvelous party in the Hotel Clarence in Seneca Falls—I was thrilled to be able to speak a bit with Nancy Pelosi, to shake Lilly Ledbetter’s hand and thank her for her service to women, and to observe Ina May in animated conversation with so very many people who seemed to really understand the depth and breadth of her contributions to women, midwives, and birth. I found a moment to ask Ina May, my friend of over 20 years, if she had kept a careful record on her CV of all her talks and all her publications—she said, regretfully, that she had not. I urged her to create that record so that it will not be lost! Is anybody out there up for writing the full biography that she so richly deserves?

The following day, Sunday, Vicki and I attended a lovely brunch held in Ina May’s honor by NYSALM. Invited to the mike, Ina May began with a question: “If I were younger and wanted to come and practice in New York State, what would I have to do to do so legally and how much would it cost?” She is a CPM and has a Master’s in English—the Master’s degree is now a requirement for any midwife who wants to become licensed in New York. So the answer, given most clearly by Kate Finn CPM, CM, was two years at either program for CMs—the one at SUNY downstate in NY or the one in Philly, at a cost of $50,00 to $60,000. A young aspiring midwife, already a CPM, stood up to speak of the hoops she had jumped through to become eligible for the CM SUNY downstate program, taking all the necessary prerequisite courses, only to find her application rejected. And she asked, “Why is it so hard to become a Licensed Midwife in New York, when I am already a midwife?” A fascinating discussion ensued that indicated clearly that the members of NYSALM are very open to considering alternate routes, including looking at ways to legitimate CPMs in NY. It came up in the discussion that the ICM (International Confederation of Midwives) global standards for midwifery education might be used—yet CNMs and CMs in New York operate far beyond those standards because they are trained not only in maternity care but also in lifetime well-woman care. And, as some of them said, they simply love not having to say goodbye to their clients after birth because they can offer them ongoing, lifetime care. Yet no one there seemed to want “tiered midwifery”—meaning that there would be various hierarchical classifications of midwives (as there are for nurses)—so the dilemma of how to incorporate the CPM in New York remains. They are going to work on that!

After the brunch, Vicki and I found time to visit the National Women’s Hall of Fame. It was incredibly inspiring to find so many of my personal culture heroes honored there. Too many to mention here, but I will just say that in a glass display case, there was a scarf that had belonged to Amelia Earhart (a posthumous inductee). Sally Ride, another inductee, had taken that scarf into outer space as a tribute to her personal culture hero Amelia, and then had returned it to the museum. Women honoring women. I was moved beyond words to hear that story, to see Sally’s uniform also displayed there, and to move around the museum gasping at the stories on the plaques of the women honored there, with tears flowing as I honored their individual and collective achievements. And walking into that Hall of Fame, the first thing I saw was Ina May’s plaque complete with photo right next to Betty Ford’s, on the display panels in the middle of the room of the new inductees.

We have a lot further to go, but we have come a very, very long way in our collective efforts to guarantee equal rights for women, and now for the next cause—human rights in childbirth—a cause that our marvelous Ina May has long championed. She has been a spearhead for that movement in many countries around the world. Let’s pause a moment to celebrate her recognition as a champion of normal birth and women’s rights, then take a deep breath and go on to do the work of making physiologic birth and respectful treatment of laboring mothers the global norm! So many brave women have paved the way—let us follow in their footsteps and make new paths of our own.

 

Screen Shot 2013-10-16 at 10.13.39 AMRobbie E. Davis-Floyd, Ph.D. is an International Speaker, Accomplished Author, Medical/Cultural Anthropologist, Expert on Childbirth and Midwifery, Editor and Reviewer, and Consultant and Senior Research Fellow, Dept. of Anthropology, University of Texas Austin.

 

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Ina May is Officially a Great Woman

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Midwife Ina May Gaskin was inducted into the National Women’s Hall of Fame on October 2013 alongside with other “Great Women” including: Betty Ford, Julie Krone, Kate Millett, Nancy Pelosi, Bernice Resnick Sandler, Emma Hart Willard, Mother Mary Joseph Rogers, Anna Jacobson Schwartz.

Rarely is there a person who touches your life so deeply before you even meet her.

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Me and and Ina May outside PA capitol building May 11, 2012 for Safe Motherhood Quilt Rally to bring respect, dignity, quality, evidenced-based care to all.

Ina May’s Book Spiritual Midwifery not only contributed to give me the strength to stand up and deliver and birth as my intuition told me, her book started me on my path to enjoy and pass along pleasure in childbirth.

Years later when we finally met, I was touched yet again by her words of wisdom and her gracious, wise, fun presence.  Her words of  Orgasmic Birth… well you know where they took me!  I feel so blessed to know Ina May and have shared many talks and travels together. Whether you have met her, heard her speak, or read her book, I hope you join me in celebrating the amazing woman/midwife she is and honor her years of work, wisdom and blessings that she has shared with so many!  Being Inducted into the National Women’s Hall of Fame: Showcasing Great Women is so well deserved!  Ina May Gaskin is shining a spotlight for us to follow on the path to Optimal MotherBaby Care and Midwifery!

We are excited to bring you this video clip of Ina May’s Acceptance Speech from the National Women’s Hall of Fame 24th Induction Ceremony, as lovingly recorded by Robbie E. Davis-Floyd, Ph.D.

So let’s look at other ways Ina May’s “Greatness” has been illustrated….

Quotes! Your body is not a lemon! Let your monkey brain do it! The Energy that Get’s The Baby In Get’s the Baby Out!!

You may all be familiar with this famous Ina May quote:

Remember this, for it is as true as true gets: Your body is not a lemon. You are not a machine. The Creator is not a careless mechanic. Human female bodies have the same potential to give birth well as aardvarks, lions, rhinoceri, elephants, moose and water buffalo. Even if it has not been your habit throughout your life so far, I recommend that you learn to think positively about your body. Ina May Gaskin

This video is one of Ina May’s favorites and well-illustrates the “Your Body is not a lemon” quote.

To hear more great quotes from Ina May, listen to “The Modern Midwife: Ina May Gaskin” Interview aired in September by American Public Media The Story.

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Interview for American Public Media’s The Stor

“In 1971, Ina May Gaskin founded “The Farm,” a place where women can give birth without machines or drugs.  She tells guest host Phoebe Judge about giving birth to her own children conventionally, an experience so rough it moved her to find another way. When she first began her work as a midwife, she says, she knew little more than that you should be nice to the mother. “That’s what I did,” she says. In the decades since, Gaskin’s approach to natural childbirth has appealed to thousands of women.” Listen to the interview at http://www.thestory.org/stories/2013-09/modern-midwife-ina-may-gaskin.

In 2012 we were treated to “Birth Story: Ina May Gaskin & the Farm Midwives” Documentary and led thru many of the wonderful experiences and achievements in Ina May’s life including: The Farm in Tennessee; her skill and knowledge about delivering a breech birth; how she was introduced to the Gaskin Maneuver used to relieve Shoulder Dystocia; her theory on the Sphincter Law, & the Safe Motherhood Quilt Project.

And recently Ina May presented at TEDxSacramento about Reducing Fear of Birth in U.S. Culture.

Debra & Ina May
As I was walking onto the stage to speak at the Woman and Nature Conference (Wroclaw, Poland, October, 2013), I heard a whole lot of cheering from the audience. I knew there were doulas there. Later, Ina May Gaskin said to me, “you can always hear the doulas, the wildness in their voices and their passion they bring to childbirth.”

 

 

Thank you Ina May for shining a spotlight for us to follow on the path to Optimal MotherBaby Care and Midwifery!

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Supporting Newborn Golden Hour

By Aszani Stoddard, CNM, IBCLC
HPIM0169.JPGImagine being a newborn. You have been cradled in a warm, dark, watery environment. You have heard your mother’s heartbeat, the voices of family members and the sounds of your mother’s environment.  Bathed in her hormones, you have instinctively pushed with your legs as she pushed you out. You have emotions, but no words for them.  You have lots of instincts to guide you. And now you are here.

Imagine that your first experience of the world is being greeted with fear. You are handled roughly and dried aggressively with a baby blanket.  A bulb syringe is plunged into your throat. Your known oxygen supply, the umbilical cord, is quickly clamped and cut and you are whisked off of your mother for another round of suctioning under the warmer. You might be weighed, measured and dosed with Vitamin K and erythromycin eye ointment before your mom ever takes a good look at you. You are presented to her wrapped tightly in blankets. Often, at this point, you are overwhelmed and your eyes are closed.  Even if you opened them, you would not be able to see her, the source of your life, through the Erythromycin ointment.

At some point, if your mother has planned on nursing you, you will be arranged across her body, and be woken up. If you show signs of interest, a well-intentioned person will assist your mother in latching you. This might include pushing you onto the nipple or putting a little formula on your mother’s nipple to entice you to nurse.

Let’s stop for a moment and consider the messages we have given to the Mother-Baby dyad so far:

1-The world is a scary place

2-The transition from the intrauterine to the extrauterine environment cannot happen without intervention

3-Medical intervention supercedes instinctual behavior

4-The convenience of medical people is more important than the needs of the mother-baby dyad

5-Breastfeeding is difficult, perhaps even impossible, and babies cannot stay healthy without our intervention.

Breastfeeding Is a Public Health Issue

Is it any wonder that many babies do not nurse well at first? That 75% of women in the United States initiate breastfeeding and only 15% are exclusively nursing at 6 months? (1)

It is estimated that about $13 billion would be saved if breastfeeding were increased from current levels to 90% of women breastfeeding exclusively for six months.

This number includes only savings for children’s health.  This number does not factor in the protective health benefits for the mother, or the psychological benefits for the Mother-Baby dyad.

What the Data Tells Us:

  • Undisturbed skin-to-skin contact (also known as Kangaroo Care) immediately after birth promotes:
    • Breastfeeding success in the short-and long-term
    • Mother and infant bonding
    • Regulation of normal temperature, breathing and heart rates, blood pressure and blood sugar for the newborn
    • Decreased stress for babies and mothers
    • Improved immunity for infants
    • Improved infant survival and decreased hospital stays for sick and premature newborns, even in settings with overcrowding and poor resources (3 & 4)

What My Experience Tells Me:

With over a decade of helping women in home and birth center settings and over twenty years in hospital settings, I have seen instinctual behavior happen in all settings. But it only happens if we (the care providers) get out of the way.

Yes, I’m saying that less is better. That we cause harm by intervening too much.

How Can We Do Better?

  1. First, place the baby immediately onto the mother’s abdomen after the birth.
  2. GENTLY dry the baby, remove the wet blankets and cover the baby and mother with warm blankets right away. THERE IS NO NEED TO SUCTION A HEALTHY BABY.  Gently wipe the face as you do the body. Talk to the baby and welcome it to the world.
  3. Avoid anything that could potentially cause harm to the breastfeeding process, including use of the bulb syringe and deep suctioning.  DO NOT suction the stomach because “the baby is spitting up”. No special measures are needed for babies born with meconium-stained fluid unless there is a need for ventilations. (5).
  4. Learn how normal newborns transition from amniotic-fluid breathing to air-breathing creatures. Know how to spot the difference between normal and abnormal transition.  Educate and talk with parents to point out what you are seeing and looking for after the birth.
  5. In every setting, institute a “Sacred Hour” after the birth. This includes minimal contact from anyone but the mother and partner. Vital signs should be taken minimally, and always with the baby skin-to-skin with the mother and covered with blankets. Visitors should be limited during this time.
  6. Infants should be given at least an hour to self-attach at the breast. Educate families and staff about normal infant behavior during this time. Refrain from forcing a newborn onto the nipple.
  7. Learn about instinctual infant behavior and how to optimize infant positioning for successful breastfeeding
  8. Keep the baby “in the habitat” (skin-to-skin with the mother), even during assessments like blood sugar testing.  If blood sugar is low, nurse first. If the baby isn’t nursing, supplement at the breast with the baby in the habitat., preferably with donor human milk.
  9. ALWAYS include the parents in decision-making. Avoid paternalistic behavior. Use the midwifery model (which can be used by anyone doing maternity care), which emphasizes shared decision-making (6).
  10. Always think about how to best adapt care to be “Mother-Baby Centered”. Be innovative and fearless in protecting the habitat for newborns.

Postscript:

Although many researchers have studied this issue, a few people deserve special recognition:

Over the last 35 years, Drs. John H. Kennell (a pediatrician) and Marshall H. Klaus (a neonatologist) have helped us to understand physiologic and behavioral processes of mothers and babies around the time of birth.  In turn, they have helped modify obstetric and newborn care to enhance the remarkable inborn capacity of mother and infant to promote their mutual welfare.

Dr Nils Bergman, working in South Africa, has also extensively studied this area, and coined the term “the habitat” for keeping the newborn skin-to-skin with its mother.

Resources:

An excellent and quick look at why skin-to-skin care is so important, from one of our renowned world experts, Dr. Nils Bergman:

http://www.skintoskincontact.com/what-is-ssc.aspx

Dr. Nils Bergman’s sister website on Kangaroo Care:

http://www.kangaroomothercare.com/

Excellent videos for staff in hospitals and parents about how to recognize the normal stages of infant self-attachment at breast:

http://www.healthychildren.cc/skin2skin.htm

Evidence-based resources for maternity health care, including the “Listening to Women” Survey:

http://www.childbirthconnection.org/

For an outline of the 10 Steps for Baby-Friendly Care:

http://www.babyfriendlyusa.org/

For an outline of Mother-Friendly Care:

http://www.motherfriendly.org/MFCI

A summary of the work by Drs. Kennell and Klaus:

http://www.childbirthconnection.org/pop.asp?ck=10469

References:

1- http://www.cdc.gov/breastfeeding/data/NIS_data/index.htm

http://www.usbreastfeeding.org/LegislationPolicy/FederalPoliciesInitiatives/HealthyPeople2020BreastfeedingObjectives/tabid/120/Default.aspx

2-http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/20368314

•Bartick M, Reinhold A, The burden of suboptimal breastfeeding in the United States: a pediatric cost analysis. Pediatrics. 2010 May;125(5):e1048-56.

3-A bibliography from a talk given by Barbara Morrison, PhD, FNP, CNM, in 2006 at the International Network of Kangaroo Mother Care Biennial Workshop

http://kangaroo.javeriana.edu.co/encuentros/6encuentro/abstract2.pdf

4-A comprehensive overview of the literature from Case Western Reserve University:

http://fpb.cwru.edu/kangaroocare/KCBIB%20abstracts.pdf

Review of the current NRP Guidelines:

5- http://www.aafp.org/afp/2011/0415/p911.html

The definition of the Midwife Model of Care:

6- http://cfmidwifery.org/mmoc/define.aspx

 

AS HeadshotAszani Stoddard  is a nurse-midwife and International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC) who has worked in home, birth center and hospital settings for the last thirty years. Aszani is the founder of the Madison Birth Center (www.madisonbirthcenter.com), Wisconsin’s first Nationally Accredited and Baby-Friendly free-standing birth center. She now works in a woman-centered hospital practice in Minneapolis. She remains an active part of the birth center community by serving on committees and serving as a bridge between home, birth center and hospital cultures.

The Thoughtful Midwife: Fearlessly combining research and traditional midwifery wisdom to guide maternal and infant health care.

 

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Marcy’s Tips for Healing Birth Trauma

Submitted by Marcy Stevens Sauter IBCLC, PCD (DONA)

“Working with women on a daily basis, I have found that my story is not uncommon. Birthing women are very vulnerable, period. Most cultures are not sensitive to the needs of birthing women, especially here in North America where I reside.”

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imageOn a recent trip to Bali, I attended a birth doula training that was taught by DONA trainer Debra Pascali-Bonaro. My intentions were not primarily geared to becoming certified, they were more to discover and attain birth healing for myself. After carrying a load of birth trauma for decades, my focus was to find peace for my heart and soul once and for all. The simplicity of being in the community of other women was very healing. Their non-judgmental company and listening ears made a huge impact on me. I needed the community of women to advance me on my journey.

Without going into the gory details of the traumas I experienced as a birthing woman, I have found that I am not alone in my quest for healing. Working with women on a daily basis, I have found that my story is not uncommon. Birthing women are very vulnerable, period. Most cultures are not sensitive to the needs of birthing women, especially here in North America where I reside.

Perhaps I was naive to think that I would be a hostess of the perfect birthing woman. My plan was to have my babies without any intervention. I imagined myself as a warrior woman whose body sustained life for 9 months to the growing baby and would continue to sustain him/her with my warm milk that my body produced. Far from it! With all four of my pregnancies, I think I had every intervention known to medical science. Despite successful breastfeeding, I still felt like a failure!

The good news here is this: there are women who experience great birthing outcomes. I’ve met them, I’ve worked with them! It gives me hope for future generations that birth will be esteemed, and it lights a fire under my feet to continue the work that I do as a postpartum doula, and IBCLC.

So what next? What will you do if you find yourself in a position like I have been in? A place where you find yourself with disappointment or depression due to unattained goals as a birthing woman.

Here’s my advice:

1. Find that community of women that will nurture you. Seek out the women in your community that are doulas, midwives, massage therapists, moms, grandmas, aunts, sisters, childbirth educators, lactation consultants, librarians, cashiers, WOMEN! There is so much we women can offer each other that is not tapped in to. Encompass yourself with the wisdom of other women, it can be healing.

2. Don’t wait for years on end to find healing! I waited for years, and the trauma manifested itself into depression and anxiety. Seek out mental health professionals that specialize in Post Trauma Stress Disorders. This step may help you avoid carrying around extra baggage of disappointment. It might be necessary, even with the community of women, to seek professional help. There are mental health issues that might need to be addressed that a specialized healthcare provider can treat.

3. Don’t blame your baby! If I was really honest with myself, at the time I gave birth, I would have to say that on a sub-conscience level, I put partial blame on my children as if they had something to do with the outcome. What a terrible load to put on an innocent baby! If you find yourself having difficulties in connecting with your infant, try wearing your baby and continue breastfeeding, which are instrumental  for both baby and mama to heal the possible disconnect that the dyad may feel after having a difficult or disappointing birth.

4. If you are pregnant, educate yourself about childbirth interventions, beforehand. I have observed that many women I’ve worked with, that have had positive birth outcomes are ones that opened themselves up to learn about the pros and cons of possible medical interventions.

In the event that you are hoping to have a non/low intervention birth, I recommend reading one or more of the following books:

Spiritual Midwifery by Ina May Gaskin
Gentle Birth Choices by Barbara Harper, Suzanne Arms
The Complete Book of Pregnancy and Childbirth (Revised) by Sheila Kitzinger
Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth by Ina May Gaskin
Misconceptions by Naomi Wolf
Orgasmic Birth Guide  by Debra Pascali-Bonaro and Elizabeth Davis

And viewing the following videos/dvd’s:

Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret
Business of Being Born
Birth Story: Ina May Gaskin and The Farm Midwives

In closing, it took me decades to finally leave a good portion of emotional turmoil, sustained by birth trauma, that I carried around for way too long.

I was privileged to attend two births of local Balinese women at Bumi Sehat, a birth Center in Ubud, where Robin Lim practices. These laboring moms were surrounded by the circle of women, which empowered them through their labor. I’ve decided to attend births as a birth doula a few times per year, here in the USA. In the meantime, I will use my skills and personal experience to help heal the hearts of women that have experienced birth trauma/disappointment.

Learn more about Gentle Birth Practices in Debra’s Pain to Power online childbirth experience.

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Marcy Stevens Sauter is an IBCLC and PCD (DONA) with her company Rest Assured Postpartum Doula Care serving greater Orange County, CA and Los Angeles County, CA.
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