Hi, I’m Debra Pascali Bonaro, and I want to welcome you to my website.
My goal here and in life is to help birth pros and new families all over the world learn about the details of gentle birth, and I see it as my personal mission to remind humanity that birth can be full of pleasure and delight. I first got into this work after having my own children and experiencing the beautiful, creative power within me. How could I turn away from this calling?! I love the work I do, because it puts me in contact with wonderful people doing wonderful things around the globe.
We are all here to make a difference in this world, and I know that when we work together that it is possible. Right now, we need to change the way we birth to make it more gentle. I believe this change needs to be gentle, as part of the system, embracing the idea that it will take the village, everyone — the community of physicians, midwives, nurses, doulas, educators, administrators, policy makers, women and men working together to make change happen. We don’t want to alienate or blame anyone, because the change will not be as effective. Our influence needs to be like water…each drop gentle, essential and moving toward its destination…sometimes direct and gathering more flow and sometimes trickling through cracks, around and under rocks and obstacles, and always moving together to become a strong flow.
There are many actions in birth, and we need to be finding a balance of them. In some parts of the world, these actions are underused. In other parts of the world they are overused; there is harm in both. It’s time to find appropriate actions and to have balance of them. In the West, we have overuse of Pitocin and c-section. We have underuse of high touch/low intervention resources such as doulas, water, balls, movement, acupressure, and upright positions.
I believe that awakening our inner wisdom is of primary importance; it’s the first step in making a difference. If you are a mom, a dad, a doula, a midwife, an obstetrician, or a birth activist, I aim to help you awaken your inner wisdom. I am searching everyday to dance with my wisdom and celebrate her expression in my life. It is a joy for me to share this journey with you, and invite you to become part of the gentle birth evolution, where we remind each other of the beautiful power of gentle creation.