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Ina May Inducted into Hall of Fame by Robbie Davis-Floyd

Ina May Gaskin and Robbie Davis-Floyd at the Gala Celebration of the National Women’s Hall of Fame Inductees, Oct. 12, 2013. Ina May was inducted, along with 8 other remarkable women, including Betty Ford and Nancy Pelosi. Photo by Juliana van Olphen Fehr.
Ina May Gaskin and Robbie Davis-Floyd at the Gala Celebration of the National Women’s Hall of Fame Inductees, Oct. 12, 2013. Ina May was inducted, along with 8 other remarkable women, including Betty Ford and Nancy Pelosi. Photo by Juliana van Olphen Fehr.

I had the honor and the pleasure to bear witness to Ina May’s induction into the National Women’s Hall of Fame in Seneca Falls, a charming small town in Upstate New York that has long been a hotbed for the women’s liberation movement—the first Convention for Women’s Rights was held there in 1848, followed by many subsequent events during our sister-ancestors’ long battle for equal rights. The National Women’s Hall of Fame is physically located there, right across the street from the Elizabeth Cady Stanton Park.

It was a grand event with hundreds of attendees. The festivities began with a Tea Party (a deliberate and not-so-subtle comment on our present political logjam!) that offered plenty of opportunities for meeting, greeting, and networking. The New York midwives turned out in force for Ina May—they planned their annual NYSALM (New York State Association of Licensed Midwives) meeting to take place in Seneca Falls so that they could all be there to support Ina May. MANA’s representative to the event, Vicki Hedley, current MANA Board member and Treasurer, kindly drove me through the gorgeous countryside on a bright sunny day that enabled us to fully appreciate the lovely vistas of mountains, valleys, and fall foliage that filled our senses with delight.  I came from Texas, Juliana van Olphen Fehr (Director of the Nurse-Midwifery Program at Shenandoah University) came from Virginia, as did many others to be there for Ina May, and wow did she get a lot of cheering when she stepped forward to have that huge medal hung around her neck!

It is official! Ina May is a Great Woman!
It is official! Ina May is a Great Woman!

She gave a brilliant talk. She began by noting that even though she could not legally practice in New York State as a CPM, she had actually and legally attended a birth in New York, on a Native American reservation there that is not officially part of NY. “Balance” was her theme—the balance the Six Nations achieved by having men as chiefs, with a committee of women as the voters who decided what the male leaders could and could not do, such as when they could and could not go to war. She moved on to honor Mary Breckinridge, a former inductee, describing the Frontier Nursing Service that Breckenridge created, the difficult conditions under which they practiced, fording swollen streams to attend home births, and the excellent outcomes they achieved because of their courage, skills, and commitment. They achieved a remarkable sort of balance between the needs of the population and the services the FNS midwives could provide. I managed to film most of her talk on my iPhone—Debra Pascali Bonaro will be posting it on YouTube, so watch for it!

The formal induction ceremony opened with a video of Hillary Clinton welcoming us all to Seneca Falls, honoring the early feminists, and celebrating today’s induction.  The other eight inductees included Betty Ford (1918-2011), Julie Krone (1963- ), Kate Millett (1934-  ), Mother Mary Joseph Rogers (1882-1955), Bernice Resnick Sandler (1928- ), Anna Jacobson Schwartz (1915-2012), Emma Hart Willard (1787-1870), and Nancy Pelosi (1940-  ). Betty Ford’s daughter spoke movingly of her bravery in choosing to share her diagnosis of breast cancer and her struggles with alcoholism with the world, in order to move these heretofore almost unspeakable issues into public awareness and consciousness. Julie Krone—you may not know her name, but she was one of the first female jockeys in the U.S and eventually became the leading female Thoroughbred horse racing jockey of all time. Her speech was inspirational. She described her early marginalization as a woman, being given the worst horses to ride and then learning them so well that she began to ride them to victory, over and over, against all odds, until her skills were finally fully acknowledged, at which point she began to ride back-to-back races, sometimes winning five or six races a day, and going on to become the first woman to win a Triple Crown and many other awards. Nancy Pelosi told the story of being asked to run for the House of Representatives, her concern about what that might mean for her last remaining child at home, a daughter. She told her daughter about the opportunity, said that she was willing to let that go in order to stay home and support her through her senior year of high school. Her daughter’s response: “Mom, GET A LIFE!”

The Gala Celebration after the Induction Ceremonies was a marvelous party in the Hotel Clarence in Seneca Falls—I was thrilled to be able to speak a bit with Nancy Pelosi, to shake Lilly Ledbetter’s hand and thank her for her service to women, and to observe Ina May in animated conversation with so very many people who seemed to really understand the depth and breadth of her contributions to women, midwives, and birth. I found a moment to ask Ina May, my friend of over 20 years, if she had kept a careful record on her CV of all her talks and all her publications—she said, regretfully, that she had not. I urged her to create that record so that it will not be lost! Is anybody out there up for writing the full biography that she so richly deserves?

The following day, Sunday, Vicki and I attended a lovely brunch held in Ina May’s honor by NYSALM. Invited to the mike, Ina May began with a question: “If I were younger and wanted to come and practice in New York State, what would I have to do to do so legally and how much would it cost?” She is a CPM and has a Master’s in English—the Master’s degree is now a requirement for any midwife who wants to become licensed in New York. So the answer, given most clearly by Kate Finn CPM, CM, was two years at either program for CMs—the one at SUNY downstate in NY or the one in Philly, at a cost of $50,00 to $60,000. A young aspiring midwife, already a CPM, stood up to speak of the hoops she had jumped through to become eligible for the CM SUNY downstate program, taking all the necessary prerequisite courses, only to find her application rejected. And she asked, “Why is it so hard to become a Licensed Midwife in New York, when I am already a midwife?” A fascinating discussion ensued that indicated clearly that the members of NYSALM are very open to considering alternate routes, including looking at ways to legitimate CPMs in NY. It came up in the discussion that the ICM (International Confederation of Midwives) global standards for midwifery education might be used—yet CNMs and CMs in New York operate far beyond those standards because they are trained not only in maternity care but also in lifetime well-woman care. And, as some of them said, they simply love not having to say goodbye to their clients after birth because they can offer them ongoing, lifetime care. Yet no one there seemed to want “tiered midwifery”—meaning that there would be various hierarchical classifications of midwives (as there are for nurses)—so the dilemma of how to incorporate the CPM in New York remains. They are going to work on that!

After the brunch, Vicki and I found time to visit the National Women’s Hall of Fame. It was incredibly inspiring to find so many of my personal culture heroes honored there. Too many to mention here, but I will just say that in a glass display case, there was a scarf that had belonged to Amelia Earhart (a posthumous inductee). Sally Ride, another inductee, had taken that scarf into outer space as a tribute to her personal culture hero Amelia, and then had returned it to the museum. Women honoring women. I was moved beyond words to hear that story, to see Sally’s uniform also displayed there, and to move around the museum gasping at the stories on the plaques of the women honored there, with tears flowing as I honored their individual and collective achievements. And walking into that Hall of Fame, the first thing I saw was Ina May’s plaque complete with photo right next to Betty Ford’s, on the display panels in the middle of the room of the new inductees.

We have a lot further to go, but we have come a very, very long way in our collective efforts to guarantee equal rights for women, and now for the next cause—human rights in childbirth—a cause that our marvelous Ina May has long championed. She has been a spearhead for that movement in many countries around the world. Let’s pause a moment to celebrate her recognition as a champion of normal birth and women’s rights, then take a deep breath and go on to do the work of making physiologic birth and respectful treatment of laboring mothers the global norm! So many brave women have paved the way—let us follow in their footsteps and make new paths of our own.

 

Screen Shot 2013-10-16 at 10.13.39 AMRobbie E. Davis-Floyd, Ph.D. is an International Speaker, Accomplished Author, Medical/Cultural Anthropologist, Expert on Childbirth and Midwifery, Editor and Reviewer, and Consultant and Senior Research Fellow, Dept. of Anthropology, University of Texas Austin.

 

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Ina May is Officially a Great Woman

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Midwife Ina May Gaskin was inducted into the National Women’s Hall of Fame on October 2013 alongside with other “Great Women” including: Betty Ford, Julie Krone, Kate Millett, Nancy Pelosi, Bernice Resnick Sandler, Emma Hart Willard, Mother Mary Joseph Rogers, Anna Jacobson Schwartz.

Rarely is there a person who touches your life so deeply before you even meet her.

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Me and and Ina May outside PA capitol building May 11, 2012 for Safe Motherhood Quilt Rally to bring respect, dignity, quality, evidenced-based care to all.

Ina May’s Book Spiritual Midwifery not only contributed to give me the strength to stand up and deliver and birth as my intuition told me, her book started me on my path to enjoy and pass along pleasure in childbirth.

Years later when we finally met, I was touched yet again by her words of wisdom and her gracious, wise, fun presence.  Her words of  Orgasmic Birth… well you know where they took me!  I feel so blessed to know Ina May and have shared many talks and travels together. Whether you have met her, heard her speak, or read her book, I hope you join me in celebrating the amazing woman/midwife she is and honor her years of work, wisdom and blessings that she has shared with so many!  Being Inducted into the National Women’s Hall of Fame: Showcasing Great Women is so well deserved!  Ina May Gaskin is shining a spotlight for us to follow on the path to Optimal MotherBaby Care and Midwifery!

We are excited to bring you this video clip of Ina May’s Acceptance Speech from the National Women’s Hall of Fame 24th Induction Ceremony, as lovingly recorded by Robbie E. Davis-Floyd, Ph.D.

So let’s look at other ways Ina May’s “Greatness” has been illustrated….

Quotes! Your body is not a lemon! Let your monkey brain do it! The Energy that Get’s The Baby In Get’s the Baby Out!!

You may all be familiar with this famous Ina May quote:

Remember this, for it is as true as true gets: Your body is not a lemon. You are not a machine. The Creator is not a careless mechanic. Human female bodies have the same potential to give birth well as aardvarks, lions, rhinoceri, elephants, moose and water buffalo. Even if it has not been your habit throughout your life so far, I recommend that you learn to think positively about your body. Ina May Gaskin

This video is one of Ina May’s favorites and well-illustrates the “Your Body is not a lemon” quote.

To hear more great quotes from Ina May, listen to “The Modern Midwife: Ina May Gaskin” Interview aired in September by American Public Media The Story.

Interview for American Public Media's The Story
Interview for American Public Media’s The Stor

“In 1971, Ina May Gaskin founded “The Farm,” a place where women can give birth without machines or drugs.  She tells guest host Phoebe Judge about giving birth to her own children conventionally, an experience so rough it moved her to find another way. When she first began her work as a midwife, she says, she knew little more than that you should be nice to the mother. “That’s what I did,” she says. In the decades since, Gaskin’s approach to natural childbirth has appealed to thousands of women.” Listen to the interview at http://www.thestory.org/stories/2013-09/modern-midwife-ina-may-gaskin.

In 2012 we were treated to “Birth Story: Ina May Gaskin & the Farm Midwives” Documentary and led thru many of the wonderful experiences and achievements in Ina May’s life including: The Farm in Tennessee; her skill and knowledge about delivering a breech birth; how she was introduced to the Gaskin Maneuver used to relieve Shoulder Dystocia; her theory on the Sphincter Law, & the Safe Motherhood Quilt Project.

And recently Ina May presented at TEDxSacramento about Reducing Fear of Birth in U.S. Culture.

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As I was walking onto the stage to speak at the Woman and Nature Conference (Wroclaw, Poland, October, 2013), I heard a whole lot of cheering from the audience. I knew there were doulas there. Later, Ina May Gaskin said to me, “you can always hear the doulas, the wildness in their voices and their passion they bring to childbirth.”

 

 

Thank you Ina May for shining a spotlight for us to follow on the path to Optimal MotherBaby Care and Midwifery!

How has Ina May shone the spotlight for you?

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Secret Pleasures of the Uterus

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by Dr. Eve Agee

The uterus…it’s our first home, a place of safety and security.  Yet did you know that this vital female organ can also be a key source of sensuality and ecstasy for women?  Even though in the West we don’t frequently associate the uterus with sexual satisfaction, many ancient cultures celebrate the sensual gifts of the uterus and recognize it as one of the main pleasure centers of our female bodies.

For many women, it may take a shift in the way we relate to the uterus to open up to the sexual rewards it can give us.  From a physiological standpoint, during vaginal stimulation or sex (with yourself or a partner), the uterus enlarges and elevates with every phase of sexual response. This can generate wonderful satisfying sensations for women and full-on uterine orgasms in some.  Even researchers describe uterine orgasms as “earth shattering” and profoundly emotional.

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These mind-blowing surges of pure bliss often occur when there is a strong emotional connection such as a intense intimate bond with a partner or during the birth of a child.  At least thirty percent of all women in scientific studies have blended or g-spot orgasms, which are a combination of clitoral and uterine orgasms.  At home away from the sterile laboratory settings the numbers are probably much, much higher.

For women wanting to find new ways to relate to the uterus for vibrant pregnancy, childbirth or lifelong sexual health, it can be helpful to get in touch with the energy of the uterus to expand ecstasy and awareness.  To do so (or to help clients do this) it’s important to create the freedom to explore what feels good to our bodies in a safe comfortable setting.  This may not involve a partner at first but rather taking time with yourself to play around with what it’s like to experience pleasurable sensations in the uterine area.

You can start to get in touch with your uterine energy to expand ecstasy your pleasure by making a few minutes everyday to connect with your womb space.  Wear loose comfortable clothing and find a quiet place you can recline or lie down where you will not be disturbed.   Close your eyes and begin to breathe deeply into the pelvic core and imagine or intend that you can connect with your uterus.  Silently or out loud, say hello to your uterus, like you might greet a beloved friend. Breathe deep long breaths in and out through your nose as you focus your awareness on your uterus. Place one hand on the lower abdomen and caress, stroke, or move your hand in slow circles around the lower part of your belly over the uterine area.

Begin to imagine a rich orange or golden light flowing to the uterus, filling it with love and tenderness.  You may also want to envision or sense the uterus pulsating in ways that bring you pleasure while breathing deeply into your womb.   With every breath, feel your uterus starting to fill with satisfying sensations and delight.  Continue this exploration for as long as you would like, acknowledging that regularly taking time to imagine your uterus flowing with waves of pleasure will help you heighten sexual ecstasy.  When you complete your practice, thank your uterus and your body for all the blessings they give you.

Remember that you can connect with your uterus anytime throughout your day by placing your hand over it, receiving a deep breath and feeling gratitude for all that does for you.  Just like any relationship, the more positive attention and love you give to your uterus (and all of your body), the more delight you receive in return.   Approach this process with a light heart and have fun with it. Taking the time to explore the secret pleasures of our uterine energy can bring many gifts to enjoy–for a lifetime.   Please post any insights or questions that came to you while reading this post below–we would love to hear from you.

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Image 18_2_2Dr. Eve Agee is an international bestselling author, medical anthropologist, women’s health expert, and Founder of the Transform Coaching Academy.   Her best-selling book, The Uterine Health Companion: A Holistic Guide to Lifelong Wellness (Random House), is the winner of the International Book Awards.

Eve has served as a White House expert, taught at the University of Virginia, and researched women’s healing throughout the world. She is the co-founder of the Hot Flash Mob and her work has been featured on NBC, Fox, BBC, iTV, Fox and NPR.  You can learn more about Dr. Eve’s programs at www.eveagee.com.

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Eye-Doctor Finds New View on Breastfeeding

A Himba woman and her infant child in Namimbia.

Originally published February 13th, 2013
Yesterday I went for my annual eye exam. It seemed as routine as it sounds as I waited for my turn. As I sat in the chair it was hard to believe another year had passed. My eye doctor said to me “what do you do?”  He had vaguely remembered that I work in maternal child health globally. He shared with me that he was a Nestlé stockholder and recently was reading an article about  Nestlé selling infant formula and breast-feeding advocates concerns. He clearly thought that with free market there’s no reason why Nestlé should not be allowed to sell their formula and that women have the education and decision-making ability to decide if they want to breast-feed or if they want to purchase formula. I’m sure his response is very standard and seems reasonable to many.

I asked if he knew that thousands of babies die each year mostly in the developing countries when they use formula, that would not die if they were breastfed? Yes we agreed this is due to lack of access to clean water, lack of mixing properly, families diluting the formula to save money as well as the many short and long term health benefits that breastfeeding provides. He quickly said then why isn’t the focus on clean water? Why are governments held accountable to have clean water for everyone? While I agree on this I said to him what about governments responsibility to provide the best information and work toward optimal health for MotherBaby.  There is no company to gain from marketing breast-feeding. It is a public health issue! Every person, company and country should take a stand for the health of our youngest citizens. Finally the United States is getting involved.

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I offered the idea about how years ago cigarettes and alcohol were advertised on television. With good lobbying government finally banned Tobaco and alcohol companies from advertising realizing they must protect the information that goes to consumers that can influence their behaviors and have negative health consequences. I asked “can you see this same similarity here with formula?”.

He nodded gently.  I launched into the The Code (World Health Organization Publication WHO/MCH/NUT/90.1) says:

• NO advertising of breast-milk substitutes to the public.
• NO free samples to mothers.
• NO promotion of products in health-care facilities
• NO company “mothercraft” nurses to advise mothers.
• NO gifts or personal samples to health workers.
• NO words or pictures idealizing artificial feeding, including
pictures of infants on the products.
• Information to health workers should be scientific and factual.
• All information on artificial feeding, including the labels, should explain the benefits of breastfeeding, and the costs and
hazards associated with artificial feeding.
• Unsuitable products, such as condensed milk, should not be promoted for babies.
• All products should be of a high quality and take into account the climatic and storage conditions of the country where they are used.

To read more visit World Health Organization Publication WHO/MCH/NUT/90.1, visit Breastfeeding Online, and for many insights and resources about the code visit The International Baby Food Action Network.

While Nestle has limited in marketing in some low resource countries, why does it still violate the code in many middle to high resource countries? Don’t our babies deserve the best start? While I agree with his next statement that the U.S government and other government should regulate this as they do tobacco ads, I also feel that companies also have an ethical responsibility to uphold best practices. Nestle clearly has: been asked, seen boycotts of their products, and knows the ills that come from pushing formula. For details on this visit the Baby Milk Action site.

After a long discussion, my eye-doctor said, “you gave me a great deal to consider and look at from a new vantage point.” He finished my exam- my eyes are good and I left with a smile. You never know when you can educate and open a discussion to shift perception.

What are your thoughts on the WHO Code? What are your thoughts on Nestle?

Where have you opened up discussions about maternity care or breastfeeding?

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Le Plaisir d’Accoucher: Pleasure of Birthing

Here is Mr. Bernard Bel’s of AFAR response to Debra’s backstory about the Orgasmic verse Organic Birth titles….

Screen Shot 2013-07-17 at 12.34.38 PMDear Debra,

Long ago (in 2001) a group of birth activists led by two homebirth midwives invited us for a contribution to the public show they organise every year in the context of International Women’s Day. Since I was collecting interviews of women who had unassisted births, I suggested that we invite a few of them to speak about their experience. The title of their intervention would be “Le plaisir d’accoucher, pourquoi s’en priver?” which means: “Pleasure of birthing, why should we avoid it?”  The organizers felt shocked with the title and this contribution was canceled on the pretext that it would generate “bad reactions from the press”… Their main problem was to promote the case of intelligent women who did not rely on the care of midwives for a secure birthing. However they felt equally disturbed by the notion of pleasure associated with childbirth. One of them confessed that after thirty years of practice as a homebirth midwife she had never noticed anything pleasurable in the experience of her patients!

In those days writings such as “Resexualizing childbirth” (Leilah McCracken) and a few pleasurable birth stories started circulating but only in a very small circle of people who could read English and communicate via internet. We started publishing birth stories, encouraging parents (and caregivers) to share their experience in writing. Gradually the idea that birth may “also” be pleasurable made its way, at least women experiencing it were no longer seen as hysterical nymphomaniacs. 😉 I often argued that sex can be the most pleasurable experience in life wheras it becomes a horrible and painful event when forced or even disturbed by someone’s will.

Indeed, pleasure in birthing requires more than the respect of privacy, but privacy and gentle care are necessary conditions for it to happen.

For these reasons I personally would keep a title like “Orgasmic birth” for the original film and a slightly less provocative one such as “Le plaisir d’accoucher” (Pleasure of Birthing) for the shorter version. Both of them would convey the idea of pleasure and we would avoid discusions about what is “natural” triggered by the word “organic”.

I let you know about more comments.

All the best,

Bernard

To read Debra’s original response to Mr. Bel’s inquiry about the titles please click here.

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Creating a Name: Organic and Orgasmic Birth

Debra was asked about the different film titles: Organic and Organic from Mr. Bernard Bel of AFAR: Alliance francophone pour l’accouchement respecté. Mr. Bel explained that people were concerned (or horrified to be exact) that the Organic title was an attempt at self-censorship of the Orgasmic Birth title and further explained that in France ” ‘organic’ food/farming is still perceived as a marginal activity and “natural” is often associated with a regressive vision of women being naturally “complimentary to men” – as recently spelled out by a proposal for the Tunisian constitution (inspired by religious fundamentalists). Whereas “orgasmic” is undoubtedly connected with pleasure and freedom, i.e. democratic values.” It is so interesting how the same word can have such a different context in different languages and cultures! This discussion inspired Debra to write the backstory about the titles. Here it is….

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I know many of you are wondering why the name changes from Orgasmic to Organic Birth. I’ll begin with why we even chose the title “Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret” in the first place. Some of you that have attended screenings with me over the years have heard this story of how I attended a pitch session in New York City for independent filmmakers. We were in the middle of making Orgasmic Birth and our working title was An Ordinary Miracle: Global Models of Care. The film was the same vision as it today, about pleasurable birth but we didn’t yet have a title that reflected the power and possibility that birth offers in our lives.

The day of the pitch session I was teaching a workshop in New York City.  I had spent a great deal of time talking about the sexuality of birth, the ecstatic hormones of labor and “Orgasmic Birth”.  One of the women who was at the workshop was also a filmmaker.  When I mentioned I had to leave right on time to attend an independent film pitch session with top Television executives, she offered to come with me and be my film doula.  We were all gathered in a big auditorium with a long table down below with executives from different networks.  I felt like it was the American Idol of filmmakers.  I waited and waited and finally my name was called out.  I was asked to stand right where I was and begin my pitch.  I stated my name is Debra Pascali-Bonaro and my film in production is An Ordinary Miracle: Global Models of Care.  One of the gentlemen said you can sit down now.  I quickly stated I thought I had 10 min. to share about my film.  He said with a title like that he didn’t need to know anymore as I wouldn’t have an audience for this film.  I quickly, shared my 2nd working title, which was  Ecstatic Birth.  He repeated please sit down.  My film doula next me hit me as I was coming down to my seat and said: “yell out “Orgasmic Birth”.  Under my breath, I said “I can’t”.   She said: “Why! What do you have to lose?”.  So with that I jumped back up and yelled out “Orgasmic Birth!”  The auditorium broke into laughter and the gentleman in the front said:  “Now, that is not possible?” I went into my 10 min. about the sensuality, sexuality and the possibility for pleasure, bliss, ecstasy and orgasmic joy in labor birth and beyond.  “We birth the way we live”.  He ended my 10 minutes by saying if you make that film you will have something people will be intrigued by.  I sat down smiling and then thought am I really going to step out to the world with the title Orgasmic Birth?

Running through my mind was something my friends had said: the definition of insanity is to… do the same thing and expect different results.  I knew it was time to borrow a slogan from Karen Brody “To be bold!”  I was ready to step out and speak about the ecstatic bliss and joy available to women and men during childbirth.  We needed to have a new discussion if we were to make change in birth around the world.

Well as they say, the rest is history.  We released Orgasmic Birth in the end of 2008. Orgasmic Birth has traveled to 46 countries, numerous film festivals and is translated into 10 languages.  We continue to receive interviews weekly from around the world.  So you ask, why did we create a shorter 52 min. version with a new opening, a new birth and revised editing of many of the scenes?  We have been asked to create a broadcast version to air in many countries around the world.  A broadcast hour is  52 minutes of film.  I welcomed the opportunity to go back into the edit room after having watched the film literally thousands of times and redo some of the scenes with a new eye.  After many hours of work, money and time put into the new addition, we thought what else could we do with it to share it with the world?

It was decided we would release our new, revised, shorter version of Orgasmic Birth  as a DVD.  If we use the same title how would people know the difference between the two?  Should it be  Orgasmic Birth 2?  That did not feel right to us. We knew we needed a new name, a way that people could distinguish between the two copies.  Over the 3 years since the release of Orgasmic Birth we’ve notice consistently that 40% of our Google analytics come from people googling the name Organic Birth.  I had often wondered; did people really think we were saying the word organic not orgasmic?  Maybe with our focus on organic gardening and organic living it seems more culturally appropriate.  So another late night searching for a title, we thought let’s give people what they’re looking for Organic Birth.

Orgasmic Birth’s cover is the color red so we made Organic Birth green.  We call Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret,  Organic Birth’s tag line is Birth is Natural! Organic Birth is still about pleasure, ecstasy, transformation, facing our fears, and finding orgasmic pleasure.  It is a slightly gentler approaching, sharing all that is possible in birth.  Our new version is another approach to bring a message to the wider world.

Orgasmic Birth still creates a larger discussion, sells more and generates the controversy needed to look into the issues and make change.  We must view the connection between birth and a woman’s sexuality.  For if we are to truly support women and their partners, fathers and others in childbirth, we must see the sacred, sensual connection to how our hormones and physiology of birth and sex are connected.

If caregivers honored the intimacy of birth: created privacy, ensured all women felt safe, offered a variety of comfort measures, many more women would find their way to an easier, safer and more blissful, orgasmic experience.

In the end, I believe each film Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret and Organic Birth: Birth is Natural!  add to the discussion and can be used in different ways and settings to help woman and men see all that is possible in birth and beyond.

I welcome your thoughts and feedback.  Have you seen both versions? Which one do you like better? How do you feel about our titles? What is your favorite quote? Both version of our film are now available on the Orgasmic Birth website for digital rental or purchase a well as to purchase DVD’s. 

Read Mr. Bernard Bel’s response here.

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Pleasures of Life with Love, in Agerola

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1072399_400857836702057_260659349_oI am sitting by the pool for my last morning in Agerola as I savor the memories, the magic, the beauty, the people and the views atop the Amalfi coast in Agerola, nicknamed Little Switzerland. High above the Mediterranean Sea, the views take your breath away.  From our Hotel Le Rocce we see both the mountains of Agerola and the Mediterranean Sea below glistening and reflecting the July sun shimmering and dancing on the water where the sea and the sky blend, taking us into infinity with our views and our dreams.  It is Orgasmic Italy!  My new name for our new weeklong retreat and tour with my cousin Graziella.  We are taken back in time living in a traditional Italian Village where we share our lives, finding pleasure in the food, people, views.  Our lives open up and expand in ways that words cannot fully capture.  Love, happiness and music flow freely.

Guiding our woman’s circle for 7 blissful days, I am blessed.  Opening to new elements in our lives, we created friendships and memories to last a lifetime.  Taking the beauty we discovered within and around us home, we will integrate those discoveries into our lives.  Because words can capture some of the magic, here are quotes from participants to inspire you to find pleasure today where ever you are:

“I enjoyed the most pleasurable week of multi orgasmic experiences ;). Love, share, care, learn, adventure in a truly magical & mystical environment! Together in the company of very beautiful wonderful woman I enjoyed delicious Italian food, warm Italian hospitality, stunning nature. Most special for me was our boat trip along the Amalfi coast with Panini & Prosecco bubbles and refreshing swims. My heart softens & opens up of the fairytale memory of our enchanting trip between worlds in the Valley of the Fairy’s. A part of me still lingers there & a part of the valley lives as part of me now.” ~Ursula

“Breathing in the fragrances and pure air high above the Amalfi coast, I look out on the Mediterranean sea from my room.  Ageroleans open their arms and hearts in welcome. From the “biologique” food served in several hundred-year-old palazzos to mountain walks in the Valley of the Fairies, my stay has been a feast of the senses.  There is magic here.” ~ Roberta

Where do you do to find Orgasmic Bliss in your life?

Would you like to join us for our Orgasmic Italy taking place June 15 – 22, 2014?  Join our mailing list for more information as it become available in the coming weeks, and sign up early for our early bird discount!

 

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Hormone of Pleasure Released at Bassano Workshop

Sarah Buckley MD and Midwife Verena Schmidt join the Bassano Workshop.
Sarah Buckley MD and Midwife Verena Schmidt join the Bassano Workshop.

Warm sunny days and cool breezy nights have added to a transcendent week in Bassano de Grappa Italy with 13 doulas gathered in Chiara’s beautiful Villa in the mountains overlooking the village.

Sarah Buckley, MD joined me for the Introduction to Childbirth for the DONA birth doula workshop. Sarah’s must read book Gentle Birth; Gentle Mothering is part of my recommended reading for all expectant women and birth workers.

It is such an honor to hear Sarah speak once again, about the conditions that are needed for MotherBaby hormones to flow optimally. “A woman or any mammals needs to feel safe, private and unobserved.” With the ideal conditions a laboring women finds her zone, as Ina May Gaskin says, “If a woman in labor is not looking like a goddess she is not being treated right!” When the woman is releasing elevated levels of oxytocin the love hormone, also called the hormone of calm, connection she is also receiving a great pain reliever. In addition, beta-endorphin, the hormone of pleasure, takes a woman to an altered state.

Sarah continues: “The Native Americans say the laboring woman goes out to the stars to bring back the soul of the baby. Babies also produce beta-endorphin creating a pleasurable mutual dependency. Every mammalian mother needs these rewards to fall in love and care for her baby.” “But, if the Saber tooth Tiger shows up we have high levels of adrenaline, which can slow or stop labor. In a hospital birth the tiger can be strangers, those the mother does not know or feel safe with, a doula can help her to feel safe.”

It is essential that we understand the physiology of birth so that you can create the birth ambiance and choose the people and the setting that will allow your hormones to flow optimally, not only creating a safer, easier birth, but also able to move from pain to pleasure. Sarah’s presentation is a gift for the doulas, and to me, as I always love to hear the gentle ways she presents this important essential knowledge.

Bassano Dining
Speaking of pleasure, the Italians bring pleasure to every sense, as our lunches are prepared with love, from organic produce, each dish is visually beautiful, the tastes are beyond words, served on the rooftop. I am filled with bliss, my every sense is stimulated and I am filled with an “orgasmic” high.

This Italian doula workshop is truly the “orgasmic” doula workshop, filling us with love, wisdom, tastes, song, dance and more!!

After one of our ecstatic meals together, Elena Skoko, author of Memoirs of a Singing Birth, and husband, Roberto and daughter Coco, sing to us as mothers nurse their babies and toddlers and doulas smile and sway as our collective oxytocin and emotions flow. A beautiful end to another blissful doula workshop-day, where we discussed rebozos and the doulas role in providing comfort in childbirth.

Daniela, a doula and lactation consultant offered us her passion and wisdom in a three hour Breastfeeding class that meets yet another requirement for DONA certification.

Verena Schmid, an amazing, wise Italian midwife, joined the circle too and shared about postpartum care and the golden first hour after birth. At night, Verena joined me for the first screening or Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret in a theater in Bassano.

This is truly a special workshop where a DONA International doula trainer, a physician, midwife, lactation consultant, singers, amazing cooks, incredible doulas, have joined together in a circle to broaden our knowledge about the physiology of childbirth, understand the doulas role in supporting mother’s partners and babies, learn comfort measures, share our experiences, heal, grow and learn to support challenging births, while creating a lasting memory full of emotions, friendship and oxytocin. This has been a unique and incredible experience for us all. Together we have created an additional link in the bridge between midwives, physicians and doulas in Italy.

We have our closing dinner yet to come, look for our photos on facebook.com/obirth as we celebrate an end to a life changing week near the famous Bridge in Bassano de Grappa.

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