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The Story of Brazilian Midwife Dona Ivani

Traditional Wisdom: Honoring & Reclaiming the Heart of Birth, The Beautiful Story of Midwife Dona Ivani

This story is a good example of the rich discussions we had last fall at the Human Rights in Childbirth Conference about every MotherBaby’s Father, Partner and Family’s right to give birth with respect, dignity, collaborative decision making, with whom, where and how they choose. With a long rich history of midwifery around the world it feels good to honor the midwives who paved the path and whose wisdom and caring that Gabriela so eloquently captures as in celebrating Midwife Dona Ivani. At the HRiC conference, in my roundtable with Robbie Davis-Floyd on cultural perspectives, one of the many topics discussed was how it is not enough to just survive childbirth, MotherBaby’s must also thrive. We are learning how birth effects us emotionally in both the short and long term. It is the heart, the caring, nurturing and support that we must reclaim and value as much as safety, the part that traditional midwives such as Dona Ivani embodies. Thank you Gabriela for sharing.

Submitted by: Gabriela Azcoaga Klett, Sana, Rio de Janeiro, Brasil

vale do sanaThe day we chose to make our first midwife’s meeting in the countryside was the same day there were protest in the streets of Brasil about birth humanization. As my friend doula Fabiolla said, we were protesting too in another way…

We decided to honor the traditional midwifes that worked in the valleys of the Rio de Janeiro state not so long ago, because the more we know about them, more our admiration. Here I want to share the story of Dona Ivani. She is 77 years old and we had the pleasure of her presence, hearing her story and even share a yoga class with her!

1385047_614566051915521_822983782_nDona Ivani was an orphan. She grew up in an orphan house and as the years went by she became to be known as the “mother of the country.”

Her first child was born when she was a teenager, and the birth was attended by a midwife in the city of Rio de Janeiro. She lived in a neighborhood where people were friendly and women started calling her to help in births- she doesn’t know why, maybe because she was gentle, maybe because it was her destiny. So she acquired some experience, and when she went back to the countryside, people knew about her and started going to her house looking for help. Not only women in labour but people with any health problem. There was no hospital in the area at the time, no doctors. Her house became the only place, she did not only the attention but also feed them and took care of the children that came together.

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Dona Ivani midwife and a yoga class.

The neighbors helped her in her mission, as women arrived from all over walking long distances. She managed to have a place with clean sheets for everyone, and clothes for the baby. At the time it was was difficult- no electric light, no transport, wood for cooking. But she says she had always successful, even with some hard situations, she felt she had a protection from heaven. With time she was recognized for her work and authorities decided to help her. She fighter hard for an ambulance that finally arrived in the 80’s. She was called to work in the city hospital and had a salary after long years of volunteer work, and when she went back home after work she attended women that was expecting for her there.

Now she’s a beautiful grandmother and she says she misses her time, time of solidarity.

Thank you Dona Ivani, your life is an incredible example.

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Playlist Helps Sarah’s Birth Roar with Pleasure

Sarah-82“I am Woman, Hear me Roar”
– Helen Reddy, 1972

I am woman, hear me roar
In numbers too big to ignore
You can bend but never break me
‘Cause it only serves to make me
More determined to achieve
    my final goal
And I come back even stronger
Not a novice any longer
‘Cause you’ve deepened
   the conviction in my soul
Oh yes, I am wise
But it’s wisdom born of pain
Yes, I’ve paid the price
But look how much I gained
If I have to
I can do anything
I am strong (strong)
I am invincible (invincible)
I am woman

I was 6 years old and singing and dancing to Helen Reddy’s amazing words and message. I grew up with these words. They were instilled in my body.

As a birth doula for over 14 years and a prenatal yoga instructor for the past 10, I sometimes have a gentle, quiet laugh inside when moms talk about their “birth playlist.” I chuckle because for many mamas, those songs are never played for one reason or another. I certainly didn’t have any expectations of hearing a specific song on my birthing day.

This past fall, at 38 years old it was finally my turn to stretch, move, transform, and walk the walk that I have been teaching for over a decade. I knew so much about how to support others’ birthing, but wasn’t sure how I was going to do it myself. I had seen mamas birth in so many ways using so many different techniques and tools, that the mystery of what it was going to be like for me was daunting. I hoped for ways in which I could experience pleasure while birthing my daughter, Metta.


May you be the rockstar at the birth of your child, and doulas, midwives, partners, friends and family be the backup singers and dancers to rock you through.

I listened to hours and hours of Hypnobirthing and Hypnobabies meditations. I drew images with the help of Pam England and Birthing From Within. I spoke to Debra Pascali-Bonaro about ways to get “juicy” and enjoy the sensations of birth. I spent hundreds of hours (yes, really!) on my yoga mat doing strong powerful warriors and goddess pose, dancing and relaxing and breathing deep.

Never in a million years did I think that my pleasure in birth would come from my playlist.

After a full 24 hours of intensity, my midwife checked me for the first time while I labored at my father’s farm, in the beautiful sunroom. I was thrilled to hear I was 9.5 centimeters and ready to birth. Little did I know that at 12:30 a.m., 14 hours later, I would still be with child.

I hit the wall many times—wondering if I could really do this and did I have the strength, love, energy, focus? I always came back up, and I did so with the help of my husband, my birth doula, my midwives, my sister and my step-daughter and step-son.

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Sarah surrounded by loving support, while laboring in the sunroom of her father’s farm.

One of the most pleasurable, memorable moments of my birth was around noon, just four hours before Metta’s birth. That favorite childhood song of mine “I am Woman, Hear Me Roar” streamed through the speakers. I’ve played that anthem for years in my prenatal yoga classes. Finally, that triumphant song played for me: My doula and midwives danced, grooved, and sang along with me and Helen … now that was pleasure!

I will never forget when my midwife flung her arm straight up in the air with a clenched fist as she said, “YOU ARE STRONG! YOU ARE INVINCIBLE! YOU ARE WOMAN!” I believed her wholeheartedly as I dipped into the pleasure of the perfect song at the perfect moment.

Soon enough, Metta was born. Her entrance song was Snatam Kaur’s holy tribute “Ong Namo” … I bow to the divine within. Remarkably, this is the same song that played as my husband and I walked down the aisle on our wedding day the previous September.

My birthing day was full. Not what I’d call painful, but full of hard, beautiful work. Full of love and music and letting go. Full of musical pleasure. The 44 hours it took to bring Metta into my arms was not the kind of pleasure I had imagined it might be. Instead, birthing my girl was the pleasure that a mama knows when she is called into the embrace of the birthing goddess within … stronger than she realizes she is, for longer than she imagines she can be.

I hope that someday Metta will have her own birth soundtrack — one that roars with power and pleasure. I wonder what will be on it? Maybe she’ll have Helen Reddy’s encouragement pulse through the speakers once again. Maybe Metta will invite Katy Perry to add her “Roar” to the mix, too: You hear my voice / you hear that sound / Like thunder gonna shake the ground … I got the eye of the tiger / a fighter / dancing through the fire/ ‘Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me roar!

Metta's entrance song was Snatam Kaur’s holy tribute “Ong Namo” ... I bow to the divine within. Remarkably, this is the same song that played as my husband and I walked down the aisle on our wedding day the previous September.
Metta’s entrance song was Snatam Kaur’s holy tribute “Ong Namo” … I bow to the divine within. Remarkably, this is the same song that played as my husband and I walked down the aisle on our wedding day the previous September.

“Ong Namo” by Snatam Kaur

Oh, my beloved
Kindness of the heart
Breath of life
I bow to you
And I’m coming home

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Screen Shot 2014-02-04 at 2.32.57 PMSarah Longacre is the Founder of Blooma in Minneapolis as well as an educator and yoga instructor there- learn more about Yoga at Home. O Birth’s Debra Pascali-Bonaro teaches Post-Partum Doula Workshops at Blooma annually, to learn more about Blooma workshop, please visit their event page.

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Debra demonstrating Rebozo Closing Technique on participant of 2013 Post Partum Doula Workshop at Blooma.

 

 

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Vita Nascita: Life, Birth in Campania

Join me for Orgasmic Italy:  Amalfi Coast Women’s Retreat & Tour. Registration opening soon!

“It all began one sunny day on my honey moon in Positano Italy almost 14 years ago.”

Nonna with fresh bread from the Bakery
Nonna with fresh bread from the Bakery

Vita Nascita. Life birth. Weather we are birthing new life spiritually to ourselves, or physically (and spiritually) to a new baby- it is always important to nurture ourselves. That is why I am so excited to have 2 workshops in Italy this summer. I love the element of water to enhance our connection to our emotions, it is no surprise that both my summer workshops are near the water.

People know I like to share the best-kept secret, as in our documentary Orgasmic Birth where we share that pleasure in childbirth is not only possible but something we need to talk about. I also love to look at the herstory of childbirth and the herstory of my family roots to Italy.

Nonno driving It all began one sunny day… on my honey moon in Positano Italy almost 14 years ago. My husband and I were driving and saw a sign for the town of Agerola (a-gzher-ola) that I knew was where my great-grandmother was born. We began the windy drive up, up, up to the top of the mountain and found absolutely stunning views of the Mediterranean. We started searching for my family and soon people were helping us and, we found my family!

Graziella's bookWhat a surprise when I found my cousins who still have the home where my great-grandmother was born in. With stories and old photos we have pieced together our family-ties and since then have developed a close bond and deep love for them and the traditions and culture of Agerola. It was amazing story, that still touches my heart today, as I reconnected our family.

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Fresh produce truck stopping so we can buy vegetables & fruit at my family’s home in Agerola. I love it!

 

View from Debra's room at Hotel Le Rocce.
View from Debra’s room at Hotel Le Rocce.

That is why this summer I am so excited to share my family and one of my favorite places with an intimate group. I have come to know the many treasures that are hidden in this mountain village and am so looking forward to sharing the pleasures of life, history, art, dance, food and music of Agerola, Italy with others.

AgerolaMy friend Jacqueline is joining us to translate. Family friend, Salvatore, will host us at his Hotel Le Rocce where from one’s room you can look out at the whole coast seeing views of Positano, Amalfi, and the Mediterranean sea below.

At the hotel, I’ll guide us thru some workshops to help us all open up, decompress, revel, and reconnect- vita nascita! We will meet my dear cousin Graziella, who has shown me the many treasures and traditions in this special region and she will help lead the group into town to visit a family friend’s panetteria, the pottery shop, the mozzarella maker, and more. Our driver, Efisio, will take us on special day trips to Amalfi and Ravello and we will walk to Positano via the famous Path of the Gods (and share some secret treasures that only the locals know about!).

So looking forward to the celebrations of life in Campania and to giving birth to the life within us- Vita Nascita, and awakening our inner wisdom! Join me on the Amalfi Coast Women’s Retreat and Tour!

Amazing Waterfalls on The Path of the Fairies - it is said the water from these springs bring you memories from past times.
Amazing Waterfalls on The Path of the Fairies – it is said the water from these springs bring you memories from past times.
Antonio shares his discoveries in this church with us.
Antonio shares his discoveries in this church with us.
One of the many churches in Agerola filled with art and treasures.
One of the many churches in Agerola filled with art and treasures.
Classic Italian Pottery of the Amalfi Coast, made in Agerola, Italy- we will visit her shop.
Classic Italian Pottery of the Amalfi Coast, made in Agerola, Italy- we will visit her shop.

Amalfi Sign

The streets of Amalfi, Italy.
The streets of Amalfi, Italy.
My cousin, Graziella cooking home made pasta, with vegetables from the garden. Delicious!
My cousin, Graziella cooking home made pasta, with vegetables from the garden. Delicious!
A typical lunch, fresh Mozzarella, fresh Ricotta,  made this morning down the road, homemade Bread from the bakery, homemade Pasta &  homemade wine, a feast for lunch at my families home in Agerola
A typical lunch, fresh Mozzarella, fresh Ricotta, made this morning down the road, homemade Bread from the bakery, homemade Pasta & homemade wine, a feast for lunch at my families home in Agerola
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How to Lead a Laboring Woman Towards Pleasure

1614301_10152196941446407_1327116207_oCold.  White.  Warm.  Pleasure.  Connection.  Nurturing.  Sharing.  Love… These are all words I feel this week co-teaching a doula workshop in Montreal with Rivka Cymbalist, author of The Birth Conspiracy and founder of the Montreal Birth Companions. Being in Montreal is filling me with many emotions since I attended McGill University there, was married there, and gave birth to my first son there. Each street corner brings a flood of memories. Montreal is where I entered the sacred gate of motherhood that led me onto my life journey of bringing information, wisdom and pleasure to all as they prepare for childbirth. While pregnant, I realized I had been blessed with confidence and knowledge from the grandmother’s before me.

In this video Debra shares about her first personal experience with birth, in Montreal.

Yet so many women seemed to have lost their connection to the birth stories and the knowledge held by all the women who have given birth before us. As I navigated the system to claim my power- to birth my son with trust, confidence and pleasure, I felt my body, fill with power and grace. I birthed myself into motherhood, into a strong woman that has now lead to my return to share this knowledge and the many stories from the 1000’s of women I have been blessed to meet and share their birth and/or stories with, who have reclaimed this sacred inner wisdom.

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Rivka leading a discussion at the Montreal Doula Workshop.

In our doula circle, Rivka asked: “How can a doula maintain a foundation of pleasure for women prenatally and in labor, birth and beyond?” Our group of doulas suggested the following ideas and questions to consider, which can all be used by a doula or partner:

1. Providing access to information, and facilitating informed decision-making. Would you like more information?

2. Women find pleasure when they feel calm and confident.  What helps you feel calm?

3, With food, special foods you enjoy in your culture. What food nourishes you?

4. Touch and hugs. Do you like to be touched? How?

5. Are you happy? A smile can change our hormones and bring more pleasure.

“Prenatal is a time of hope, of looking forward, even if we have conceived in challenging circumstances, there is still an element of hope when pregnant.” Rivka smiles as her wisdom feels so natural and we each understand how a doula can nurture and help a woman prepare for a pleasurable childbirth.

6. Comfort measures in childbirth. I shared that I have a Mary Poppin’s bag full of pleasure tips for comfort in childbirth that I shared with the doulas so they can pass them along.  What comfort options will help you move from pain to pleasure and find comfort in childbirth?

IMG_02417.  Love her thru labor!

When is the last time you heard I love you?  Share your love. Rivka says she tells women she loves them, she loves watching women in labor, women in labor are the most beautiful! I am reminded of Ina May Gaskin’s quote” If a women in labor does not look like a Goddess you are doing something wrong!”

8. “Don’t just do something, Sit there!” If the birth is going well, respect women for what she is doing.  A laboring women will let you know what she needs if you listen.

9. Do not argue with anyone in the room. Maintain an environment of peace. Be respectful and loving to everyone in the room.

10. Support and respect the partner and the intimacy of the couple.

11. Music: Can create sensuous, intimate feelings and memories. What music or sounds brings you pleasure?

12. Adjust lighting that creates a safe, pleasurable feeling: What type of lighting creates safety and pleasure for you?

13. Breathing: What type of breathing helps you relax?

14. Listen to Women, honor her-story!

15. Support and provide breastfeeding information.

“Breastfeeding is a huge source of pleasure in a women’s life, whatever else is happening in her life, she will find pleasure in the special relationship and bonding that breastfeeding will bring.” – Rivka Cymbalist

16. “Postpartum stay naked in bed. Staying in bed, naked from the waist up with your baby helps restrict unnecessary visitors,” Rivka shares to help mothers to enjoy the sacred babymoon time while others can nurture you, cook for you and care for you and your family.

17. Tenderness: Be Tender to yourself and surround yourself with people who will be tender to you.

18. Next we had the pleasure of a talk from Julie Bonapace who taught us how the three endogenous mechanisms can relieve pain. Rather than try to capture all the great information she shared, look for her guest blog soon that will revolutionize the way you look at finding comfort in childbirth.

19.  Birth is sexual! How can you incorporate and honor your sexuality in childbirth?

Wow, what a great doula list of tips to help every woman and her partner to find pleasure in childbirth and beyond. Please add your tips too, so that we can continue adding to our list of pleasurable birth tips!

Learn more about Montreal Birth Companions or order Rivka’s book, The Birth Conspiracy.

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Ina May Gaskin & Safe Motherhood Quilt Project

In this short video Ina May Gaskin speaks about the Safe Motherhood Quilt Project. Debra recorded this video on Mother’s Day 2013 in PA. It is time we all speak-out and speak-up, join Ina May at: http://rememberthemothers.org.

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Debra and Ina May in Pennsylvania Mother’s Day 2013.

For additional background and information, please review these excerpts from Amnesty Internationals Deadly Delivery Report.

“The USA spends more than any other country on health care, and more on maternal health than any other type of hospital care. Despite this, women in the USA have a higher risk of dying of pregnancy-related complications than those in 49 other countries, including Kuwait, Bulgaria, and South Korea.

African-American women are nearly four times more likely to die of pregnancy-related complications than white women. These rates and disparities have not improved in more than 20 years.

Maternal deaths are only the tip of the iceberg. During 2004 and 2005, more than 68,000 women nearly died in childbirth in the USA. Each year, 1.7 million women suffer a complication that has an adverse effect on their health.

This is not just a public health emergency — it is a human rights crisis. Women in the USA face a range of obstacles in obtaining the services they need. The health care system suffers from multiple failures: discrimination; financial, bureaucratic and language barriers to care; lack of information about maternal care and family planning options; lack of active participation in care decisions; inadequate staffing and quality protocols; and a lack of accountability and oversight.”

Another global initiative to reduce maternal mortality and highlight women’s rights in childbirth is www.whiteribbonalliance.org/respectfulcare.

Join us as we vision and are working to heal our broken maternity care system.  Every MotherBaby deserves respectful loving care.  Together we are making a difference.  Share your thoughts and let’s remember all mothers.

Please add your stories here, have you experienced a human rights violation in the care you received?

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Childbirth Connection Press Release

Screen Shot 2014-01-23 at 10.14.31 AMToday I want to share this Press Release from Childbirth Connection. I have been a board member of Childbirth Connection for years and always cite their website in my workshops and classes, as well as share their herstory in my Introduction to Childbirth.

 

News Release
Contact: Ashley Schapitl
January 23, 2014                                                                                                                          202/986-2600

Two Organizations Dedicated to Improving Women’s Health Join Forces

Childbirth Connection Becomes Program of National Partnership for Women & Families

WASHINGTON, D.C. – Two powerhouses that have been working for decades to improve the health of women, moms and families announced today that they have joined forces, with Childbirth Connection becoming a core program of the National Partnership for Women & Families. Childbirth Connection was founded in 1918 as the Maternity Center Association; its mission is to improve the quality, value and outcomes of maternity care through consumer engagement and health system transformation. The organization has pioneered strategies to promote safe, effective and satisfying evidence-based maternity care and is a powerful voice for childbearing families. The National Partnership is a 41-year old organization that has played a role in winning every major advance for women during the last four decades. Its mission is to improve health for women and families, and make the nation’s workplaces more fair and family friendly.

“We are thrilled to be joining forces with Childbirth Connection, and convinced that, together, we will be able to do even more to improve maternal and child health in this country,” said Debra L. Ness, president of the National Partnership. “These two organizations have been close allies for years. We look forward to working even more closely in the years ahead to transform our country’s health care system in order to improve women’s reproductive health, strengthen the quality and outcomes of maternity care, and give all children in the United States the safe and healthy start they deserve.”

“Childbirth Connection has been breaking new ground for women’s health since 1918, improving the quality and outcomes of maternity care,” agreed Maureen Corry, executive director of Childbirth Connection. “We have worked hand-in-hand with the National Partnership to reform our health care system, make care more affordable, improve women’s access to high-quality reproductive health and maternity care, help women navigate our health care system, prohibit insurers from considering pregnancy a pre-existing condition, promote public reporting of quality measures, and more. Combining the National Partnership’s track record of advocacy for reproductive and women’s health with Childbirth Connection’s advocacy for high-quality maternity care and maternity care shared decision making will allow us to do even more to improve women’s health. We see this as a perfect match and are excited about expanding our collective impact and reach together.”

The National Partnership has strong relationships with policymakers at all levels. Childbirth Connection has deep roots in the clinical and research communities. Both organizations work directly with women and families to advance the goals of better access, better care, and better outcomes.

“This is a time of great opportunity,” Ness added. “Our health care delivery system is changing and there is broad awareness among policy makers, health care providers, payers and consumers that improving outcomes for moms and babies must be a priority. Together, we will be more effective in promoting high quality, affordable, accessible health care for women and their families throughout the lifespan.”

Next week, the National Partnership will release “Listening to Mothers: The Experiences of Pregnant Women in the Workplace” – an issue brief reporting findings from the Childbirth Connection 2013 survey, Listening to Mothers III: New Mothers Speak Out.  It looks at pregnant women’s experiences with discrimination in the workplace – an issue the National Partnership has worked on for decades.

This spring, the organization will issue a new version of “The Rights of Childbearing Women.”

 

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Pleasurable Birth Tips from Debra

NettieBirth-3What is the first thing you think of when you think of childbirth?  Sacred, Natural, Blissful and Orgasmic full of love and orgasms?  Or do you feel your body tighten as you think of tension, contraction, pain, and feel a sense of fear come over you?  If you said the latter, you are in good company as that is what we have been told again and again about childbirth- that women’s bodies don’t work!

What were the first stories that you heard about birth?  Do you know your birth story? What was your own birth like?  There are so many influences that shape our beliefs about birth and our bodies.  I love to ask women what they were told as young girls about their bodies and childbirth.  What did you call your breasts, your vagina, and your uterus?  Were you told that your body was beautiful, magnificent and amazing?  Were you celebrated when you had your first period?

For many of us, we grew up in a time when women’s bodies have often been shrouded in shame or seen as some type of dysfunctional machine and a feeling of “let’s not talk about menstruation and certainly not celebrate it.” It is possible to change these thoughts and beliefs but first we must look at where our beliefs came from and be willing to look at them in new ways, or sometimes old ways where women’s bodies and childbirth were considered sacred and powerful!

I am reading Eve Agee, PhD book “The Uterine Health Companion.”  As a medical anthropologist she looks at how some traditional cultures have appreciated the feminine body.  “Instead of dreading their menses, early humans cherished the uterus and women’s cycle of menstruation, pregnancy, birth, and menopause. The uterus was considered sacred in much of early Africa, Asia, Native America, and Europe.  Many prehistoric societies celebrated the uterus as the body center of female power and creativity.”  How did we get to where we are today where in most Western cultures we have the drugs and means to stop our bodies from menstruating, stopping it from its natural cycle, and disconnecting us from our moon cycle of fertility?

I am sure you have heard of the placebo effect. The placebo effect is an example of the mind-body connection and the understanding that what the mind sees the body feels. With all that we’re learning about mind-body medicine we must question what the effect is on women (and I would add on babies, men and families) when we don’t value and celebrate women’s bodies and their life-giving ability?

I love the saying “we birth the way we live!” I believe that all we’ve been told about our bodies sets the foundation for how we feel about childbirth, such as: if we had to hide our menstrual cycles, if we feel ashamed about our bodies, if we don’t believe our bodies are sacred, natural and pleasurable. These negative beliefs make it challenging to move into our power and see childbirth as a healthy part of our sexuality. That is why childbirth is a wonderful opportunity to tap into our bodies’ amazing abilities and energy at its peak, feeling our power, facing the challenge, and knowing that the body that grew the baby can birth the baby.  It’s your body, it’s your baby, it’s your birth!  It is time to reclaim the sacred feminine and celebrate each phase of our body’s cycle of life.

To find pleasure in childbirth

  1. Begin by taking an inventory of the messages you have been given about your body and birth.  Strengthen the messages and intentions you hold about your body.
  2. Create a new language for birth that includes words and phrases that encourage opening, pleasure, release, bliss and sacredness such as; riding the waves, releasing into the sensations, opening, hugging your baby into the world. Create your list of words that will redefine how you feel about your body and birth.
  3. Explore the ways that you can stimulate pleasurable sensations in your body. When you feel pleasure, you flood your body with oxytocin; the hormone of love, and endorphins, that produce a feeling of well-being- together they will help you create a safe, satisfying birth, and enhance sensations of pleasure. Find time to connect with your sensuality and create a list of ways you can bring these feelings into childbirth.
  4.  Three key elements for birth are being where you feel safe, private and undisturbed.  What do these words mean to you?  Where and with whom can you give birth and meet these three essential criteria?
  5. Even with all the above birth can be challenging. How have you worked through challenges in your life?  Create a list of techniques and strategies that you can use if you have challenging moments in birth and life.

Please share your tips, strategies and birth stories with us at http://www.debrapascalibonaro.com/share-your-birth-story/

 

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Doula Program Advocates for Refugees Experiencing Racism at Birth

Expectant mother with Montreal Birth Companions shares her beautiful belly with the camera.
Expectant mother with Montreal Birth Companions shares her beautiful belly with the camera.

“The purpose of the Montreal Birth Companions is twofold: to provide low-income or otherwise disadvantaged women with free doula services and to train “peer doulas” within the ethnically or culturally isolated areas of our city to provide doula support for the women in their communities.” – MBC

Community doula programs are very close to my heart and that is why I am so grateful for the work Montreal Birth Companions is doing. In Montréal, Quebec, recently “changes to refugee health care put women and babies at risk.” In this blog, Chesley Walsh shares a little about those challenges. To read more on the topic, please read Rivka’s full article: Undocumented Labor.  Join Rivka and I co-teaching in Montréal (you can be local or travel in) by please visiting the events page. 

Submitted by Chesley Walsh
Meet Rivka Cymbalist and the Montréal Birth Companions

Birth can be a daunting and solitary experience for many women. Navigating medical systems, choosing your birth experience and learning about the miracles of change can both edify and overwhelm us. But imagine experiencing all of this in a new and foreign country, without family, without friends and without adequate knowledge of the systems that surround you. These women, refugees and new immigrants, are often fleeing their home countries under duress, leaving behind the familiar in exchange for the safety of their little ones.

Refused refugee with her doula. Photo by Rivka Cymbalist.

The Montréal Birth Companions is a volunteer doula service, organized and operated by Rivka Cymbalist in Montréal. Rivka began her practice as a doula some twenty years ago, attending hundreds of births along the way and bringing her deep knowledge and calming presence to every delivery room. Over time she saw a sharp difference in services for the less fortunate members of her community, and she decided to begin a volunteer doula service of her own.

Nearly ten years ago, some innovative doula students and their mentor Rivka Cymbalist started offering their services to women's agencies in the Montreal region.
Montreal Birth Companions: Nearly ten years ago, some innovative doula students and their mentor Rivka Cymbalist started offering their services to women’s agencies in the Montreal region.

The volunteer doulas of the Montréal Birth Companions hail from diverse backgrounds, some trained by Rivka and others with training elsewhere; however, every volunteer doula comes with a passion to empower and nurture mothers through their birth experience, regardless of class or origin.

The results can be wonderful to behold, but there are frightening realities to face. Often, within the closed walls of a hospital birth, the question of refugee insurance or lack thereof becomes a barrier to adequate service. Racism, classism and xenophobia play a role in services rendered, particularly with regard to bedside manner. In situations like this, the role of the “advocate” doula can be extremely helpful and important for the mother.

Did racism, classism and xenophobia play a role in services you received at the birth of your baby, particularly with regard to bedside manner?  Please share your story with us here.

 

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In 2013, Ibu Robin Lim of Bumi Sehat Bali visited Montreal Birth Companion. Here is a great little skit she improvised with Montreal Birth Companions on different birth scenarios, doctor or midwife assisted. It is entertaining and informative. Cayenne Pepper comments: “Great little skit… education is so powerful when entertaining.” Enjoy!

Rivka Cymbalist is author of The Birth Conspiracy written for doulas and pregnant women. “She brings an awareness of labor and birth as a process that cannot be separated into parts and is unique for each individual into the framework of modern obstetrics, which creates stages and phases and demands that all women labor in the same way.”

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Montreal Birth Companions’ Rivka Cymbalist finally meets Ina May Gaskin at the 2013 Birth and Beyond Conference.

 

To join Debra and Rivka at the workshop please visit the events page.

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