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Response to: Silence, Denial, Abuse on Maternity Wards

HRiCSubmitted by: Heather Hancock RN RM PhD FRCNA FACM MAPS
The following is the letter Heather wrote in response to an article that appeared on Canadian Maternity List which, at the time, was focused: Silence, Denial- abuse on maternity wards. The discussion originated from a confidential listserve of providers talking about the issues (so we cannot reprint) but much of the discussion came from Henci Goer’s “Cruelty in Maternity Wards” article http://ow.ly/hkAay
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I am also a voice from down under who joined the list as a midwife and in March I will be starting private practice as a Perinatal Psychologist – and will still be a midwife.

I have had innumerable midwives and midwifery students tell me that they will be seeing me as soon as I start as they have felt marginalised, ostracised, intimidated, battered and badly hurt because of how they have been treated in their practice or because of the dreadful things they have seen women experience – and this is the 21st century………..

I have seen women over the last 12 months of supervised practice who have been left feeling empty, shattered, violated and far worse because of their experiences and not just because of undesirable or adverse birth outcomes. Too many of them experienced births that were deemed a safe outcome for mother and baby, even a normal birth, but within that the mother’s psychological status was not even recognised let alone considered because of competing/conflicting interests between health professionals, outright bullying towards them, aggression and anger, and more……….

My mantra has become —— A safe birth is not enough ——- it is not sufficient to say the baby and mother were ‘saved’, when in reality they will both suffer as the mother is unable to form an attachment to her baby and they can both fall into deep sadness and loss – it is distressing to see. Women carry the burden of their labour and birth for their lives and it will either continue to weigh them down and debilitate them or it can be a joyful affirming memory for them.

Midwifery students are the future of the profession and to see them worn down before they even commence professional practice is a tragedy and often their ‘sin’ is simply being woman centred; midwives who advocate with women and are likewise woman centred pay a heavy price for this as well and they too often are not able to recover from this and suffer for the rest of their lives with a burden of emotional and physical pain.

I have also had medical students share their shock at what they have seen and experienced in the maternity care arena and vow to keep well out of it as professionals.

This is not new – what is wrong with us?

I have avoided naming who did what to whom – the experience inflictions are shared between groups. There are also wonderful midwives and obstetricians in maternity care but sadly not all are wonderful. I have thought about this for so long and considered the possible power of local and national efforts and also been involved in interprofessional teaching between midwifery and medical students but it has not ever been enough.

I think it is time for concerted genuine international address so that the same shared message is disseminated and the same shared strategies are activated globally – it is not good enough for women to be part of this and we can never say births are safe while this continues around and to them.

Sorry for the length – it obviously struck a cord and I thank you for reading this and hopefully thinking about this.

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Heather HancockBIOGRAPHY Heather Hancock RN RM PhD FRCNA FACM MAPS is a midwife and psychologist (specialising in perinatal psychology). Heather has had significant involvement in midwifery research and education including development and coordination of Bachelor and Master of Midwifery programs, and continues to practice as a midwife. Heather has developed home birth and midwifery group practice models of care, worked as a midwife in public urban, rural, regional and remote settings, private settings and women’s homes and conducted evaluations of models of practice. Heather has worked with Aboriginal women and their families in evaluating perinatal health and wellbeing, developing quality indicators for maternity services for Aboriginal women and improving access to continuity of midwifery carer for Aboriginal women in remote communities. Heather has been recognised with Teaching Excellence awards and also been Midwife of the Year; she is a Fellow of the Australian College of Midwives (ACM) and the Chair of the ACM Midwifery Education Advisory Committee. Currently, Heather is an Adjunct Associate Professor at the University of Adelaide and is involved in various national and international journals as a reviewer. Heather is also an Accreditation Assessor for Nursing, Nurse Practitioner and Midwifery with the Australian Nursing and Midwifery Accreditation Council. Heather is a Mentor Researcher for the Rural Research Capacity Building Program (NSW Institute of Rural Clinical Services and Teaching). Heather is co-author with Lareen Newman of Better Birth which has been revised and is being re-released in May 2013 as an ebook.

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Turning birth experience into expression

Story submitted by: Krissy Shields

Have you seen Krissy Shields’ humorous short film Overdue about you guessed it- being “overdue”! In this story the expectant parents desire a natural birth but are approaching their due date and their provider wants to induce soon after. The Overdue film takes place on the final day and the parents are trying anything to avoid induction! Here is the birthstory behind the film. Thanks Krissy!

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Sweet photo from birth of 2nd child, that took place at home.

 

Submitted by: Krissy Shields

This was my first pregnancy. My first precious experience that I wanted everything to go perfectly. On my due date, my baby was carrying really high and I couldn’t imagine spontaneously going into labor in the next 5 days (the time limit for birthing in the birthing center). I also knew I wanted nothing to do with inductions.

By the time we inquired about changing our due date, they wouldn’t even consider it because of hospital rules or State law or insurance… So on my due date I got proactive, I got my “labor inducing” pedicure, spicy Korean food and some acupuncture. Nice and relaxed. Nothing was happening. At all. I mean, nothing. I continued trying to be cool and calm but I was freaking out by the day. Each passing day adding a new technique to move labor along. At about 5 days after my due date I went in for my “non-stress test” which is silly. It is anything but NOT stressful. I tried to convince the nurse that it was my irregular cycle that my date couldn’t possibly be correct. She kind of laughed and said, if you fail one of these tests you will be shipped up to labor and delivery now. Five days post date? We thankfully passed. I am not sure how because I have never been more stressed. My once calm attitude was moving into neurotic behavior by the day. Why? Because I was feeling the pressure of induction daily.

My freak out turned into action. Education is key. So, we googled. We googled “how to induce naturally”. Then, we asked around. And we tried everything. I mean, everything. Exactly two weeks after our due date, my midwife said you must come in to the hospital for induction. It is NY state law, she said. So, reluctantly, I went, after trying to convince her that I had plans tomorrow. She said, yes you have plans, you are having a baby.

I got there at midnight, after exhausting all possible ideas for a natural induction. They gave us cervadil, which is a synthetic inducer that is tampon like that softens the cervix. After 12 hours it was taken out and I was told to wait for 2 hours before the dreaded pitocin was to be administered. At this point I was furious. I stormed the halls and literally was about to leave when my best friend showed up. We sat (I bounced) telling stories and laughing our heads off. It happened. I started feeling these cramps and continued laughing, talking and bouncing. My boyfriend got word from my doula to calculate the times and length so we had a system for about 45 mins before my midwife came in and said lets start pitocin. Thankfully my team was there and said that I had started labor and didn’t need pitocin. My midwife said lets monitor this and that’s when it happened… I thought, I thought, imagine you are in labor. Imagine so hard that it happens. About 4 hours later our baby girl was born. Our instincts were correct…our conception date was wrong.

It took me a long time to forgive my midwife. I felt robbed. I felt no one was listening to me. After a few years and a successful home birth I bumped into her on the street. I had a moment of true resentment towards her but decided to talk to her. There was a reason why I chose her. I told her about my birth (she remembered almost nothing) and how it sparked an idea in my boyfriend to make a short film. We laughed and I explained my story. My anger was lifted as I knew she was just following protocol. It doesn’t mean I have to agree with it or like it but for me I was finally able to let it go. Laughter has a way of doing that.

For your free digital download of Krissy’s film please click here and look for Overdue at bottom of page.

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Sweden: Warmth at the Birth House

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“Flying over the lakes, snow and shimmering landscape of Sweden, the jagged coast line appears as I anticipate my days ahead facilitating a Pleasurable Birth Workshop.” – Debra Pascali-Bonaro

Submitted by: Bodil Frey & Debra Pascali-Bonaro

January 2013  Debra Pascali-Bonaro facilitated a Pleasurable Birth Workshop in Sweden with Bodil Frey, a doula, educator and Gothenburg host, Thea van Tuyl, a doula, educator, and rebozo expert from the Netherlands.

Bodil Frey, workshop host and head of Födelsehuset starts off by sharing with us about birth in Sweden, “Sweden has a good reputation when it comes to birth care and very few babies die around the time of birth. Sweden ranks in the top of that statistic and also has very low numbers of maternal death. The medical system likes to take the credit for this but we also have, of course, a good social security net and Sweden is a wealthy country without major gaps between rich and poor.

“Some of the good things in Swedish maternity care: the care is free for everyone; in pregnancy you go to prenatal care where you often meet the same midwife every time; you do normally not meet a doctor during this time, except perhaps at the ultrasound scan; first time mothers and their partners can go to a free birth preparation class with a midwife; at birth in the hospital you also meet only midwives if there is no complication or epidural.

“Some of the not-so-good things in Swedish maternity care: we lack options; there are no alternatives to hospital birth in most parts of Sweden; in some places there are homebirth midwives, but with some exception we pay privately for their service; planned homebirth is only one per thousand births in Sweden; there are no birth centers; no one can expect to give birth in the hospital with a midwife they know before. (One exception would be the Crown Princess Victoria who gave birth this year with a midwife she had met before!). Even though the midwives handle normal births, the system is getting more and more medicalized. Ceasareans are 17% and steadily rising. And the fears around birth increase- both for the women and for the medical staff.”

The association Bodil founded is Födelsehuset, a cozy home with a kitchen, office and two rooms for us to create a red tent of sharing over a two-day weekend. January in Sweden is cold, a layers of fresh white snow gives light and brightens the cold, gray days, which have more darkness then light this time of year. The warmth inside this space, generated by the pellet stove, feels so good and soon the warmth and light in each of us opens up and shines throughout the room.

Sweden Birth HouseFödelsehuset was founded in 2007 in Gothenburg. Bodil writes, “The name means ”The Birth House” and is a vision of one house– help and support around the woman and baby. Instead of a conveyor belt passing through different institutions and always new faces. We were inspired of the ”Geburtshaus” in Germany. Födelsehuset was founded by parents, doulas and midwifes who wanted to speak up for a better birth care and more options. The logo shows how the newborn heart and the mother heart are protected by the house.

“Since four years Födelsehuset also has funding from the county, to provide doula care for new immigrant women who are pregnant. We have now 27 doulas who themselves have an immigrant background. Their mother tongue are Arabic, Somali, Persian, Kurd, Turkish, Serbocroatian and many more languages. The doulas speak Swedish and can help with the communication between the woman and the medical caregivers. More than 400 women have had a doula during the past years and they are very welcome by the midwives. We also arrange birth preparation classes in some languages, and have started a ”Mother Center”, staffed by doulas, in an area where many immigrants live.

“We also collect information, arrange prenatal classes, lectures and workshops Rebozossuch as Debra’s 2-day Advanced Birth Support for Doulas and Midwives Workshop held here this weekend with Debra and Thea. Thea van Tuyl shared with us her beautiful Guatemalan Rebozos and many techniques to provide comfort in labor from her book – The Rebozo Technique Unfolded. A weekend like this is more than learning skills and getting information. For example, when we practice on one another how to use the rebozo we get just the same things we want to give to our clients- trust, a deep contact, healing, relaxation.”

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“When we practice on one another how to use the rebozo we get just the same things we want to give to our clients- trust, a deep contact, healing, relaxation.” – Bodil Frey

Debra loves to weave in exercise of listening, non-verbal communication and if appropriate touch, hugs and caring embraces to her workshops. Debra writes, “During labor there are many hours that we are together in silence, where no words are needed. Yet our connection and support remains strong. On the last day, Sunday morning, I can feel it is time for our group to look into each other eyes and go deeper into what it is to unconditionally nurture each other and thus others on their journey from maidenhood to motherhood. Without words our eyes, body and touch says so much. Even more than normal words of greeting. We have gone deeper, letting another to connect with us and to answer back with our eyes that we are here for you. Just as we greet a newborn, welcoming them with our eyes, our touch, our hearts open wide and then words of acknowledgement. Tears flow, hearts open as we feel our connections, oxytocin sparkles in our brains and body as without words so much is said and expressed between us.

“All over the world when women gather to speak of birth, our life-challenges and successes pour into the conversation, tears of joy and of sadness flow easily. Debras workshopOur collective experience, wisdom and diversity is amazing. Our group represents four countries: Sweden, Netherlands, South Africa and the U.S.- sixteen women and one man. It is powerful to give another our unconditional love and acceptance. I ask each person to share his or her vision for birth with another. What can we each do to make a difference in how women, men and babies are cared for and greeted in our community, country or world?”

Please share with us what you hope to bring to the birth community in your future. Födelsehuset has plans to participate in the Human Rights in Childbirth Conference and Exhibition in Stockholm in the end of the year and Debra looks forward to sharing more workshops with Bodil and other birth workers in Sweden later this year, as well as other workshops around the world.

SwedenThank you to Bodil Frey for sharing with us about birth in Sweden. Bodil is the chair of the association Födelsehuset, and a Doula and Childbirth educator. She is also the leader of the immigrant doula project. She can be contacted at: bodil.frey [AT] enbrastart.se.

To read more about the Immigrant Doula Project visit: http://fodelsehuset.se/doulakulturtolk and at the bottom-left of the page you can download two articles in English about the organization including: “Midwives’ experiences of doula support for immigrant women in Sweden” and “Foreign-Born Women’s Experiences of Community-Based Doulas in Sweden.”

 

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“Beautiful Girl” Dr. Northrup’s self-image book for girls launches

Your body is perfect just the way it is! Treat it with gentle care and embrace the changes as you grow! Are these the messages you received as a child? Whether you are a mother trying to share positive body image with your daughter or a grown woman looking to improve the image you have of yourself, Dr. Northrup & Kristina Tracy’s “Beautiful Girl: Celebrating the Wonders of Your Body” is  sure to delight and inspire.

Beautiful Girl 1mb Personally I love these type of books and whenever I start reading them to my daughter she loves hearing the stories and affirmations. It would be nice to think we say all the right things all the time but in reality, it is wonderful to have a little help from one of the most amazing teachers of women’s health and wellness: Dr. Christiane Northrup! And Kristina Tracy has co-authored some other great books so we can’t wait to read this one.

So hop on down to Hay House or B&N or Amazon and pick up your copy so we can all start sharing Dr. Northrup’s message. And be sure to take advantage of the freebie currently being offered (until January 23rd) from Hay House Radio- purchase a copy of Beautiful Girl and you’ll automatically be enrolled for Dr. Northrup’s upcoming 2-hour Live Online Event happening January 24th, Feeling Beautiful geared towards grown women who wish to transform their relationship with their body. And if you can’t make the online event, they will email you an mp3 that you can listen to anytime. If you order from HayHouse.com, the Free Online Course will automatically be added to your cart during checkout. If you order from another retailer, please click here to provide Hay House with your order # and they will email you with a priority code to use to receive the course for Free. Enjoy!

“When Dr. Northrup’s 86-year-old mother Edna read Beautiful Girl the first time, she was visibly moved. Edna told Dr. Northrup that she wished she had a book like Beautiful Girl when she was little.”

beautiful girl strong roots“The inspiring and knowledgeable author, Christiane Northrup, who is well known for her education and support of women facing life changes, takes it to the next level by including young women of all ages in her target audience. She shares that young women have special bodies to be cherished and honored and gently opens the door to discussion of physical and mental growth. The graphics are gentle and totally appropriate in a fairy tale sort of way adding abundantly to the story. I received this e-book from Hay House and recommend it to any parent who will soon be engaging in `the talk’.”    ~ Jeanie Beresford NTP (Amazon review)

 

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All Things Bali

Ibu Robin Lim’s Beijing Breakfast Natural Induction Method from the Eat, Pray, Doula Book…

Balcony Vert“The wisest way to use Castor Oil as a way to encourage labor, is to start very early in the morning, after a good night’s sleep. if the mother did not rest well in the night, and there is no rush, e.g., her waters have not released, wait until the next morning. First, check all vitals, make sure mom and her partner are tranquil and happy to be launching this adventure of parenthood. If everything checks out fine, she can try, what we call, “Beijing Breakfast.” Named, because, for a long time in China there was a shortage of oxytocin, so doctors in the hospitals used this natural induction method, with great results.

Recipe for Beijing Breakfast

1 to 2 eggs cooked as mother likes them.
– 50 ml of organic odor free Castor oil
– 10 or more ounces of fresh orange juice

 Follow Your Heart to Bali

Training spaceIt is getting that time of year again where you either commit to spending 2 life-changing weeks in Bali this March earning your doula certification so you can help moms have gentle births, or procrastinate on the deadline and feel sad about it. So here is the link, please follow your heart: Eat Pray Doula Bali DONA Birth Doula Workshop with Debra Pascali-Bonaro LCCE, CD(DONA), Guerrilla Midwife Ibu Robin Lim, and midwife Katherine Bramhall taking place this spring March 1 – 11 at Bumi Sehat Bali.

“The smell of Moxa is in the air, needles adorn the many people who are laying and receiving their treatments.”  Read Debra’s blog from arriving in Bali last year.

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10% off all Bali Items in the Global Birth Fair Store

Have you seen the gorgeous Birth of Paradise Sarongs & Wall-hangings hand-crafted in Bali? Inspirational as rebozo or to wear as shawl, hang on wall or use as baby wrap or sling. Also great birth gift!

Visit the Global Birth Fair Store and Save 10% by using the online discount code: BaliBliss

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“Peace begins with each child.”
~ Ibu Robin Lim

Guerilla Midwife Movie

Award winning documentary Guerrilla Midwife (90 minutes), takes us along the fragrant streets of Bali and desolate Acelinnese refugee camps of the Indonesian archipelago following midwife Ibu Robin Lim as her midwifery is put to the test. Filmed immediately following the December 26,2004 Indian Ocean Tsunami, it is the story of a war waged gently in the belief that peace on earth can be achieved, one baby at a time.

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Debra Teaching at the New York Open Center

New York Open CenterJoin Debra on Saturday, January 26th at the New York Open Center for “Creating a Safe, Satisfying and Healthy Birth.”  This workshop welcomes expectant parents, birthworkers, or anybody interested in gentle birth. Not able to make it to NY? Meet Debra online at her weekly webinars- please sign up to receive email updates to learn more about the next class. More Pleasure Please! And if you are in the NY area for the workshop, Debra will love to see you and help you navigate and explore your childbirth options. The topics covered will include: Lamaze International’s safe and healthy birth practices; putting the right comfort measures in place; enjoying the learning process as you prepare for one of life’s most amazing journeys; choosing the right place of birth for you (home? birth center? or hospital?) where you will feel safest; deciding how much medical technology you feel comfortable with; exploring different body positions that can enhance the ease and safety of birth (including standing); breastfeeding tips; preparing a postpartum support network; and more.

 

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Now Is the Time to Let Our Voices Be Heard

Submitted by: Hermine Hayes-Klein

The United Nations has devoted this year’s Human Rights Day to “the rights of all people…to make their voices heard in public life and be included in political decision-making.”  What better time to acknowledge the global movement raising its voice for human rights in childbirth. As cesarean rates skyrocket around the world, and women exchange stories  of coercion and force in obstetric care, it should come as no surprise that people are organizing to demand change.

What are human rights in childbirth? Every health care system in the world faces the same essential questions. Who decides how a baby is born? Who chooses where a birth takes place? Who bears the ultimate responsibility for a birth and its outcome? What are the legal rights of birthing women? What are the responsibilities of doctors, midwives and other caregivers in childbirth? What are the rights and interests of the unborn, and who has the authority to make decisions on its behalf?

HRiCIn 2010, Hungarian mother Anna Ternovszky took these questions to the European Court of Human Rights.  After the healthy, safe, and empowering birth of her firstborn, at home, with the midwife Agnes Gereb, Anna objected to the fact that her ability to hire Agnes a second time was affected by the threat of legal sanction against Agnes for attending her at home.  In the decision of Ternovszky v. Hungary, the Court held that birthing women have a fundamental human right to choose the circumstances in which they give birth. The foundations for this right include the rights to privacy, to autonomy, to control over our own bodies, and the right to make decisions for our children even as we are giving birth to them. Ternovszky is only binding on European nations, but this fundamental human right applies to all women everywhere. As a birthing woman, you have the right to meaningful choice and genuine support for your personal needs around and during childbirth, whether those needs are for planned cesarean section or undisturbed home birth with reliable medical backup.

As a birthing woman, nobody can tell you that you “must” do anything. Nobody can “let you” or “not let you” do anything. Nobody can pressure or force you into a cesarean section that you do not believe is in the interest of yourself and your baby. Nobody can cut an episiotomy if you do not consent to one. Nobody can do anything to your body or your baby without discussing it with you first and asking for your consent. You have the right to be the ultimate authority over everything that occurs around your body’s birth of your baby.

These are the fundamental human rights of the birthing woman. And yet, these rights are so commonly violated, that most women are not even aware that they have them. In both the developed and the developing world, women are too often treated with disrespect and abuse, including subjection to unnecessary, damaging, and costly surgical interventions. They are told what will happen to them, or not even asked. As women raise awareness of problems in birth care common to most modern obstetric systems, they are realizing that many of these problems could be addressed by acknowledgment of the woman’s right to make the decisions of childbirth, of her ultimate authority over the birth process.

Many disagree that pregnant women retain the fundamental human rights applicable to healthcare. In only the last month, vocal proponents of medical birth called the Respectful care in childbirthclaim that birthing women have a human right to autonomy “unethical” and “morally grotesque.” What I find unethical and morally grotesque is the assertion that a doctor, making decisions about a patient , has more authority over an unborn baby than the woman who has grown it out of her own flesh and blood.  Especially a doctor with a 35% cesarean section rate.

In the article linked above on moral grotesquerie, media darling “Dr. Amy” revealed her opinion that physiological birth, undisturbed maternal-newborn bonding, and the right to avoid unnecessary abdominal surgery have a value equal to manicures. I disagree, and I am not alone. Women are ready to stand up for the simple right to respectful support in childbirth. Dr. Amy claims that the right to autonomy in childbirth is a wealthy, western white woman’s concern, and she will not be the last to say so. Every woman’s movement has met this charge: “There are women dying in poverty, women who can’t feed their children, and you spoiled bitches dare to make a fuss about the right to own property/ right to vote/ right to education/ right to equal work and equal pay? You obviously have too much time on your hands.” It is true that one cannot fight for more than survival, when survival is in question. But that doesn’t mean that women have a right to survival alone. As nations challenge their birth care systems to meet Millennium Development Goal 5, they can do so in a way that replicates the institutional human rights violations of Western obstetrics, or they can evolve birth care to respect the fundamental human rights of the women they aim to assist. Ask women in the developing world if they are unconcerned with disrespect and abuse in childbirth.

The idea that the doctor, and not the woman, holds authority over decision-making in childbirth is so entrenched that it will take a paradigm change to put the woman back at the center of birth care.  The momentum is building, around the world, capable of generating this transformation.  The hundreds of people energized by the 2012 Human Rights in Childbirth (HRiC) Conference  in The Hague became tens of thousands of people inspired by the 1000 global screenings of Freedom for Birth on September 20th.  In the next week, the circle of activists will expand with the release of a 15-minute free version of Freedom for Birth and the launch of new functionalities on the HRiC website that will help people from around the world to find and join the organizations working to improve birth where they live.

If you believe Martin Luther King, Jr.  that the “arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends toward justice,” then there is reason to hope that the fundamental human right to autonomy and authority in childbirth will be recognized. But the only way this will happen will be if birthing women demand their rights. As Anna Ternovszky, the plaintiff who asked justice of the ECHR, said in Freedom for Birth, “Now is the time to let our voices be heard.”

 

 

Hermine Hayes-Klein was the organizer of the Human Rights in Childbirth Conference in the Hague on May 31-June 1st of this year.

 

About the obirth blog: The Orgasmic Birth weblog shares the opinions of Orgasmic Birth, Sunken Treasure Publishing and the obirth team as well as weblogs submitted by our readers or guest blogs that may or not be the opinion of Orgasmic Birth. Obirth believes it is time to be BOLD in sharing our thoughts and perspectives, to challenge others to think in new ways and whether we agree or disagree, hopes to have a discussion where we can look at childbirth in new and old ways.  “These are the best of times and the worst of times.”  Opportunity is here to transform maternity care practices and it will take a village. We appreciate your voice and thoughts, along with resources when possible so that together we can contribute to a larger discussion where women, men and communities are empowered to Take Back their Birth!

 

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Courage and Insanity, from Suffrage to Childbirth

Submitted by Hermine Hayes-Klein

Today every American citizen will have the opportunity to vote in the federal election.  The fact that this right extends to the female half of the American population is the product of the life-long efforts of a “small group of thoughtful and committed citizens” over several generations.  The struggle that ended with the 19th Amendment to the U.S. Constitution granting women the right to vote holds lessons for any movement that aims to secure women’s rights, including the movement to secure woman-centered care for every woman in pregnancy and childbirth.

Over two days in the summer of 1848, around 300 people gathered for a human rights conference.  The Seneca Falls Convention was a grass-roots women’s rights conference organized by a small group of feminist Quakers and a scholar of law, Elizabeth Cady Stanton.  The organizers of the event articulated their concerns and demands in the brilliant Declaration of Sentiments.  In the Declaration’s list of unacceptable sex inequalities, Stanton included the denial of the franchise, or the right to vote, to women.  Even Lucretia Mott, a radical feminist and conference co-organizer, objected, “But Lizzie, thee will make us ridiculous!”  Stanton would not budge, and the demand for the vote remained in.  As Mott predicted, the clause regarding the franchise was the most controversial and divisive topic under discussion at the conference, and led to ridicule and condemnation in the press.  Stanton was unconcerned, believing that, for a cause as radical and revolutionary as fundamental rights for women, there is no such thing as bad publicity.

Stanton’s good friend Susan B. Anthony spent the majority of her life trudging door to door, in those long skirts of the 19th century, in all weather, asking women to sign petitions demanding the right to vote. Most of the time, she recounted later, she was turned away; the women could say, “I have all the rights I need,” and their husbands would add, “Yes, she has all the rights she needs.  Now get off my property.”

The right to vote was not secured before the deaths of either Stanton or Anthony, and the torch passed to another generation.  Alice Paul, Lucy Burns and another small group of American women fought for the right to vote while Emmeline Pankhurst and a small group of British women fought for it in England.  These women were not only ridiculed and vilified; they were jailed, beaten, and tortured.  (The work of Paul and Burns is dramatized in the 2004 movie Iron Jawed Angels.)  When Alice Paul was in jail, she staged a hunger strike, at which point she was put in a straight jacket and fed raw eggs through a tube down her throat until she vomited blood.  She was then transferred to a sanitorium, and a psychiatrist was brought in to examine her and confirm her prosecutors’ claim that she was insane and should be permanently institutionalized.  The doctor who examined her reported that she was not only sane, but she was strong, and brave.  He is quoted as having added, “Courage in women is often mistaken for insanity.”  Paul’s courage led to a public outcry against the mistreatment of the “suffragettes,” which in turn contributed to the passage of the 19th Amendment (by one vote!). The long struggle for the female vote holds many lessons for the movement, now uniting around the world, to demand respect for women’s fundamental rights in childbirth.

Radical paradigm shifts take time, and require patience and persistence on the part of those who pursue them.  The right to vote took several generations to secure.  The work begun by Ina May Gaskin’s generation is being picked up and carried forward by my own.  Ina May’s generation reinvented American midwifery and rediscovered the basic physiology of childbirth.  And still, 35 years after the publication of Spiritual Midwifery, the cesarean rate skyrockets, maternal mortality rises, and the right to give birth outside of the medical institution is not secure.  And so we see the rise of a movement, women picketing across the U.S., marching in the streets of South America, going to court in Europe, and opening birth centers in India, the movement that organized 1000 screenings of Freedom for Birth on September 20th.

The struggle for suffrage, and the struggles for each and every right that women have secured over the last 150 years, show us that you don’t wait for popular opinion to demand your rights.  Otherwise you could wait for another 5000 years.  Every time a new set of rights has been secured for women, from the right to vote, through the right to higher education, to the right to work without sexual harassment, the majority of women declared themselves unconcerned with the right at stake and unwilling to agitate for it.  Once a small group of committed radicals secured each right on behalf of all women, the tides of public opinion could turn.  How many women today would say that women shouldn’t have the right to vote or go to college?  But if you were one of the women fighting for these rights when women didn’t have them, your opinions would have been unpopular.  You would have had to go to some kind of meeting to connect with the other women who thought the issue mattered at all.  The right to vote, like women’s other rights, was secured by the tiny minority ready to step forward and claim that right on behalf of all women.

But who are these few, the women who step up and demand the rights that their society, and its history, deny that they deserve?  They are the Stantons, the Anthonys, the Pauls, the Burnses, and all the women whose names we don’t know, but whose work has secured the liberty that American women enjoy today.  They have been strong, and brave.

“Courage in women is often mistaken for insanity.”  How much courage does it take for a woman to acknowledge that birth matters, and to step off the traveled path and seek out the care that she, personally, needs for childbirth? How much courage does it take a woman to do so without the support of friends, family, and even partner?  It takes courage to speak up when somebody is talking down to you, to request information about your choices when somebody can’t seem to imagine that you would do anything but obey.  It takes courage to say, “No.”  Especially when you’re in labor.

Almost a century after Alice Paul was strait-jacketed, courage in women is still mistaken for insanity.  When women demand recognition for their rights of authority and autonomy in childbirth, they meet two common reactions: they are accused of caring more for themselves than their babies, and they are accused of insanity.  I think of Karen in the Netherlands, who found the courage to deliver her twin daughters at home, when her local hospital refused to support her in a physiological birth.  “I knew, somehow, that my body could birth the twins if it had a chance,” she told me.  “They wouldn’t give it a chance at the hospital.  They wanted a dozen people in the room, and machines stuck to my belly and my vagina, and they itched to cut the babies out.  I live three minutes from the hospital, so I decided to give myself a chance to birth them at home, with a midwife.”  Her babies were born in less than two hours, with no pain, into her own hands and her husbands’.  When authorities discovered what had happened later that day, Karen and the twins were bullied into coming into the hospital for examination.  Although Karen and her babies were healthy, she was indeed examined: for 5 days, she was visited at her hospital bed by psychiatrists and child protective services.  She spent months fending off the threat that her twins could be taken away.

I think of Daniela in Italy, who sought far and wide during pregnancy for a provider who wouldn’t cut an episiotomy.  She was promised that the hospital where she would deliver would respect her insistence that an episiotomy not be cut. She told every single provider that she spoke with, during pregnancy and then during her labor at the hospital, that under no circumstances did she want an episiotomy.  She told this more than once to the doctor who ended up between her legs while her baby came out.  When the baby was crowning, that doctor reached for scissors and started cutting an episiotomy.  Daniela screamed “No!” from the depths of her soul.  The doctor looked up, hesitated, and then cut a long, deep episiotomy.

When medical staff visited her bed after the birth, Daniela was deeply upset.  She felt profoundly violated and traumatized.  She spoke up, loudly, about what had happened and stated that her legal and human rights had been violated.  The obstetricians called the psychiatrists, who came to suggest that, in her state, she might pose a danger to her newborn child.  After she left the hospital, Daniela was visited twice at her home by psychiatrists, without an invitation.  On top of the trauma of the episiotomy was added this violation of her safe space, her home, and the need to then convince these psychiatrists that they need not involve child protective services and take away her new baby.

And there is, of course, the case of V.M. in New Jersey.  V.M. found the courage to read the forms she was given to sign when she arrived to give birth in a hospital with a 50% cesarean rate.  She was asked to sign advance authorization for anything that might be done to her body once she entered the institution.  She read the list of interventions that she was asked to accept on arrival, and signed that she would let them run an IV line into her vein and strap her belly to an electronic fetal monitor; she consented to oxygen, an epidural, and – yes- she gave advance consent to an episiotomy.  She did not sign away her consent for cesarean section and to have a screw inserted up her vagina and into her baby’s scalp.  Hospital staff surrounded her, in labor, to ask why she wouldn’t sign the form and whether she cared about her unborn baby.   They “explained the potentially dire circumstances” that can occur in a birth, and an ob-gyn came to discuss “brain damage, mental retardation, and fetal death.”  (These quotes all come from the court opinion linked above.)  Bear in mind that there was no medical emergency occurring in the labor; the staff simply wouldn’t accept that V.M. might not pre-authorize anything they might choose to do to her and her baby.  When V.M. refused to complete the form, she was described as “irrational” and “combative” in her file, and the hospital sent in psychiatrists.  One of them interviewed her for an hour, while her labor progressed.  “While Dr. Kurani was there, the anesthesiologist was able to administer an epidural.”  The second psychiatrist interviewed her while the baby was actually being born.  “Before Dr. Jacoby’s evaluation was completed, V.M. gave birth vaginally to J.M.G. without incident.”  The psychiatrists reported that, although she seemed sane and reasonable, she had admitted to having experienced a trauma years before, seen a psychiatrist, and taken anti-depressants, which she stopped taking when she became pregnant.  They claimed that this past, combined with her “irrational” behavior around the consent form, raised a question of her parental competence.  Her baby was taken away after the birth.  Four years later, she still hadn’t received the child back.  I don’t know if she ever did.

It took courage for Karen to trust her own relationship with her body over the medical system’s concept of it, and to choose circumstances for the birth of her twins that would allow her body to do its work.  It took courage for Daniela to stand up against the butcher who slashed her perineum, to say “No!  You may not cut a woman against her will!”  It took courage for V.M. to exercise her right to consent to surgery only if that surgery was actually necessary, to stand up, while in labor, for this fundamental right in the face of a dehumanized bureaucracy of doctors, nurses, and psychiatrists.

If the worst that could happen to Alice Paul was institutionalization, the worst that can happen to a birthing woman is to have her baby taken away.  That is what happened to V.M.  That was the threat underlying the accusations of insanity thrown at Karen and Daniela.  Just as we remember the courage of those whose actions so radically transformed the legal status of women over the last two centuries, we should recognize the courage that we see around us in the women who stand up for their bodies and their babies in a broken birth care system.  And we must defend these women, and their babies, from the psychiatrists and social workers unleashed upon them for finding that courage.

Two months after Alice Paul’s hunger strike, President Woodrow Wilson urged the U.S. Senate to pass a constitutional amendment granting women the right to vote.   He called on the Senate to do “this thing that is mere justice,” in the name of America’s success in the world war.  “The tasks of the women lie at the very heart of the war, and I know how much stronger that heart will beat if you do this just thing and show our women that you trust them as much as you in fact and of necessity depend upon them.”

Almost 95 years later, the women who Stanton and Paul worked so hard to empower have turned our attention to the task of childbirth.  And we ask no more than Wilson asked the Senate, for mere justice: that those who wish to ensure a safe and healthy birth for every baby recognize that the person with the authority and responsibility to choose what is needed for each birth is the birthing woman herself.  How true for motherhood are the words that Wilson used for war: “show our women that you trust them as much as you in fact and of necessity depend upon them.”

 

Hermine Hayes-Klein was the organizer of the Human Rights in Childbirth Conference in the Hague on May 31-June 1st of this year.

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